After few months of joy we started feeling very lonely. Nobody visits us, nor we are invited anywhere. There are no weddings to attend and even no parties. In clubs and malls there still remains this feeling of being alone even after seeing so many faces eating under the same roof but over different tables. We hardly know anyone, talking is out of context altogether.
There are highs and lows of living in a township, I never thought I would be here after living in suburban colony, it seemed as a new light but this light was dim and dull unlike the local colonies that always had a bright spark about them.
Not to mention the people; here in township are not very warm and not very gentle, though I cannot conclude much about this, since I haven’t talked to any in particular but every person carry an aura around them, and I tend to sense that along with the vibrations when they walk around me. I hardly find anyone approachable enough to start a conversation and the once that may be, my bad luck; I haven’t had their vibrations felt as yet.
It feels very lonely when you’re on your own even when you have a family you still feel out of place, because living in your hometown is much different than living in a township that too miles away. There are hardly any relatives and friends around whereas in your hometown every moment becomes an occasion on their arrival; not to forget the festivals get their own charm when you don’t have to celebrate alone.
Today living in a township is embellished with a taste of monotony and loneliness. One barely finds time for another. If at all there are some connections in between people; then there’s always some unequal distance that cannot be travelled by their inner Ego’s because everyone here, has an identity that’s not reflected by their inner souls but more by the position and status they conduct in society.
The township plays a crucial role in the development of one’s psychological wellbeing where slowly and steadily the process of desensitization takes place. What happens behind the closed doors remains behind the closed doors, we do not want to get involved since we don’t know them, is the rule of the thumb and we go by that.
We tend to get ourselves busy and the feeling that we are not connected embeds deep into us, we connote this as a suitable technique for a hassle free and stress free survival in times like today where helping has become a hassle and being connected means putting up with another in every situation they face. This is the brutal reality that we counter everyday and realising and knowing it won’t make any difference, and many factors have contributed in its growth.
Maybe it’s not the township, it’s the people who have changed or this has been like this since eons and I am living it now.
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ManyMee: Lighting-up the other side of Moon
“If we are not able to freely share what we want to, connectivity is futile”
It is a connected world. We are all connected to each other with the help of technology. The question is why is there a need for connectivity? We want to communicate. While communicating we share. There are a lot of things we share and a lot of things we don’t. We share only the good stuff. We share the stuff that makes us superior to others or maintains status quo . “Others” are none but the people in our own little circles. I being in India will not be showing my superiority to someone is Sao Paulo. Closer the relationship, stronger is the urge to display superiority. If what we share does not raise our position, even for a few hours, we do not share. When there is nothing to share, we fabricate and share stuff that will make us superior thus what we share is hardly a true representation of our lives. Even if we share, it is a very small fraction of our lives.
Life is not about “Likes”. Not all situations in life are “likable” Life is not the same always. Times are sometimes easy and sometimes difficult. There may be situations in life that does not raise our status. These are the times when we want to – share and get our spirits lifted, receive honest and unbiased help and support, search for inspiration, have others help us get going, know that we are not alone but there are others who are in the same boat as ours. These situations may not be likable.
But in these times we do not share as the existing platforms don’t allow us to do so as they are predominated by “Like”.
In the existing social platforms, connections are mostly based on pre-existing relationships. The people who are connected to you have preconceived notion about who you are. There is a pre-existing image of everyone. You are already somebody there. Everyone has been labelled and tagged. Our little circle feeds the so called images and keeps them alive. Status quo is maintained. Everyone remains who they are. The existing circles help maintain “status quo”. They do not help you grow. But since life is not the same always, maintaining status quo does not work and the whole setup fails.
There is a subtle tacit non-acceptance in our circles when we share about something that has changed within us as a result of occurrence of certain events in our lives or we ourselves are trying to bring about some change in ourselves. We are subconsciously aware of this non-acceptance and this gives rise to tremendous inhibitions in trying to share and show in our little circles that you are not the same person again. The presence of the very circle inhibits us from sharing.
Thus sharing is restricted and is incomplete. Sharing is being influenced by the presence of people in our little social circles. Thus we are not able to pour our heart out. The existing connectivity with our friends and acquaintances is restricting us from sharing freely. Thus connectivity is not being able to deliver its complete value.
In order for connectivity to deliver complete value, we have created ManyMee. At ManyMee we may also share stuff that are not likable or stuff we hesitate to share. ManyMee does not work against the existing platforms but complements them by making “connectivity” deliver full value. At ManyMee we are connected to everyone but to none in particular. We have also done away with the “like” icon and have introduced three new icons. At ManyMee you are free to pour your heart out as the restrictions that have been brought about by the presence of people in our little circles are not there. ManyMee does not intend to connect you people who have preconceived notions about you nor will their status, real or fake, have a controlling influence on your confidence, thus enabling you to freely open up and share being who you truly are. Once you are able to share at will, connectivity is worthwhile and we are ourselves again.
— Written by Arnab Sinha ( hubby )