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What is that makes you
different from me ?
Its just that am indifferent
towards any differences.
“Why people seem to be unapproachable, is it because i think that they will ignore me or even say no in my face or is it my Ego that doesn’t let me reach”
ManyMee: Lighting-up the other side of Moon
“If we are not able to freely share what we want to, connectivity is futile”
It is a connected world. We are all connected to each other with the help of technology. The question is why is there a need for connectivity? We want to communicate. While communicating we share. There are a lot of things we share and a lot of things we don’t. We share only the good stuff. We share the stuff that makes us superior to others or maintains status quo . “Others” are none but the people in our own little circles. I being in India will not be showing my superiority to someone is Sao Paulo. Closer the relationship, stronger is the urge to display superiority. If what we share does not raise our position, even for a few hours, we do not share. When there is nothing to share, we fabricate and share stuff that will make us superior thus what we share is hardly a true representation of our lives. Even if we share, it is a very small fraction of our lives.
Life is not about “Likes”. Not all situations in life are “likable” Life is not the same always. Times are sometimes easy and sometimes difficult. There may be situations in life that does not raise our status. These are the times when we want to – share and get our spirits lifted, receive honest and unbiased help and support, search for inspiration, have others help us get going, know that we are not alone but there are others who are in the same boat as ours. These situations may not be likable.
But in these times we do not share as the existing platforms don’t allow us to do so as they are predominated by “Like”.
In the existing social platforms, connections are mostly based on pre-existing relationships. The people who are connected to you have preconceived notion about who you are. There is a pre-existing image of everyone. You are already somebody there. Everyone has been labelled and tagged. Our little circle feeds the so called images and keeps them alive. Status quo is maintained. Everyone remains who they are. The existing circles help maintain “status quo”. They do not help you grow. But since life is not the same always, maintaining status quo does not work and the whole setup fails.
There is a subtle tacit non-acceptance in our circles when we share about something that has changed within us as a result of occurrence of certain events in our lives or we ourselves are trying to bring about some change in ourselves. We are subconsciously aware of this non-acceptance and this gives rise to tremendous inhibitions in trying to share and show in our little circles that you are not the same person again. The presence of the very circle inhibits us from sharing.
Thus sharing is restricted and is incomplete. Sharing is being influenced by the presence of people in our little social circles. Thus we are not able to pour our heart out. The existing connectivity with our friends and acquaintances is restricting us from sharing freely. Thus connectivity is not being able to deliver its complete value.
In order for connectivity to deliver complete value, we have created ManyMee. At ManyMee we may also share stuff that are not likable or stuff we hesitate to share. ManyMee does not work against the existing platforms but complements them by making “connectivity” deliver full value. At ManyMee we are connected to everyone but to none in particular. We have also done away with the “like” icon and have introduced three new icons. At ManyMee you are free to pour your heart out as the restrictions that have been brought about by the presence of people in our little circles are not there. ManyMee does not intend to connect you people who have preconceived notions about you nor will their status, real or fake, have a controlling influence on your confidence, thus enabling you to freely open up and share being who you truly are. Once you are able to share at will, connectivity is worthwhile and we are ourselves again.
— Written by Arnab Sinha ( hubby )
Yes! We have launched our dream project.
A website where networking goes beyond just being social, it is more about connecting with emotions of people , reaching beyond the known.
My Social Site http://www.manymee.co where you can share your heartpours choosing from more than 70 + moments of your life, without the fear of being judged or any sort of inhibitions that stop you from pouring what your heart wishes to talk .
I will tell you no more why not let you explore …come join and be part of the real social connection where hearts connect to support, inspire and love.
My Hubby’s Blog
I was all happy and glee after i got married and settled with my hubby separately and away from my mum’s home that always bustled with the energy of my niece and nephew, And where work began before morning and i could never exactly figure out when will i end up in bed maybe past midnight or even more.
So suddenly i was all the more happy thinking now there’s no work and i can sleep, eat and freak at my own will but then came the loneliness, i could feel it even more because i have never been accustomed to living alone , i was always surrounded by people since school, college, work , home and i never felt like living without people was so difficult.
Because when i was living with them, all my life i felt like breaking away from them and taking sanyas and spending few years of my life alone before i get married and maybe not. I thought this many a times in my life because living in a family is not only the place where your parents, siblings and juniors influence you but also your immediate neighbors, relatives and even colleagues interfere a lot with your daily work and bread.
And so i waited and waited for my marriage to happen, the day ill be free to go on a living spree !
At first it looked nice and fresh since the honeymoon period was going on and all you think about is love and making love to my hubby. Then as the days go by i could feel an urge to go out and find work since i had left my job after marriage and moved to another city with him.
I kept exploring all possible options since working in a new place isn’t easy and there were language and cultural barriers, so i gave up looking for job and instead focused on myself thinking after all i had worked so much i must relax and enjoy doing nothing.
Days became months and months became a year, and this feeling of being alone even when we are both present hasn’t changed a bit, i wonder how do the other couples manage to live alone.I often convey my hubby about the random thoughts that cross my minds to alleviate these feelings of loneliness in me, like we must get his parents here to live with us, or that i will have at least 4 kids so that my home is always filled with noise and i keep watching little people crawling around .
He looks so much amused hearing all this but never denies me for doing anything even bringing my stupidest thoughts to reality and conforming them that they will be done.
All this and more hasn’t helped me a lot, this inner craving for people around has made me cry a lot and feel sad every time my parents, brother’s family and in laws visit me and come here to live with us for few days.
Their short duration visit’s make me even more vulnerable, i feel depressed and just cannot live alone and it get’s worse when my hubby has a tour which is for 2 or 5 days, i panic out and buy tickets immediately for home since i just cannot live by myself.
I don’t know why it happens but this need for attachment makes me weak and vulnerable, I am aware of my abilities and think am too strong to live alone and even handle everything in life ever since childhood since i have been brought up like that only, but what has happened now, something has changed in me and i cannot figure out what it is.
There’s nothing wrong externally, but everything that is wrong is internal, i have realized that soon after am left alone, when hubby goes to office or some tour my mind jumps around over the thoughts wagon and it turns on the sad mode where i think that now am alone, what next, what next, it goes around exploring bringing files and folders from past, when i was home around with everyone and how many times in my present home i felt elated to see my little nephew crawling around and how we all slept on the floor together over the mattresses in one room chatting all night.
It doesn’t stop anywhere it goes on and on, oscillating from one memory to another, all related to my being surrounded by people and constantly poking my conscious about the happiness factor that only happens when am with those people.
Now this has to stop, i cannot stop my thoughts though i can control them to some limits where i can consciously and deliberately attempt not to think about that at all and focus on the present moment like i now practice looking at the trees from my balcony ,read a book, focus on some TV serials, prioritize my thoughts and randomly select the ones that suits my present moment and upon the availability of the factors that will contribute and enhance them .
In totality the onus of changing thoughts is upon us, I am now aware that if you let these thoughts acquire you even starting from a single one, it will start a chain reaction and then you will be completely submerged into the sea of thoughts where it will become more difficult and harder to get out dry and alive. The thing is not to let even the slightest single thought affect or get onto you.
This way a lot of everyday problems can be handled, the feeling of loneliness or being alone is just one of them . Every problem is internally located somewhere in our mind, we have to deliberately find and fix the thoughts first its like debugging, to find and delete all the bad files first that corrupt the hardware that is our mind.
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