Scared of Using Face Book !

I feel a bit too pushy to write this post since recently I’ve been writing mostly about Ayurveda Health and Beauty remedies for my other blog Health & Healing ie . http://shilpirajput.wordpress.com/.

So it is like going on and off beat with Writing stuff considering the wide varieties of topics I’ve laid my hands on.

But today its not completely different nor anything new, i recently shared a post about how i felt about the social media , the use of Facebook and how i felt the need to deactivate my account every now and then. click link to read https://thoughtsummary.wordpress.com/2014/04/30/%E0%A4%A6%E0%A4%BF%E0%A4%B2-%E0%A4%95%E0%A4%B0%E0%A4%A4%E0%A4%BE-%E0%A4%B9%E0%A5%88-deactivate-%E0%A4%95%E0%A4%B0%E0%A4%A6%E0%A5%82/

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My fears were sleeping in my sub conscious till some time, but now they have occupied every zone of my conscious since i got this mail, that said ” SOMEBODY REQUESTED A NEW PASSWORD FOR YOUR FACEBOOK ACCOUNT ”

I must say that looking at those words that stormed my email 3 to 4 times yesterday, i felt like i was witnessing some scene of Final Destination movie and the cues i received from reading here and there and from my own expanded imagination , all turned into reality and that my fingers started searching for alphabets on my laptop, i was shaking and shivering, desperately in need of doing something, to fix it all up.

I was literally feeling discomfort, not knowing whether some changes have been made to my profile already by this “SOMEBODY” or not, the seconds passed like a million years and to top it all my livid memories and defunct imagination was highlighting all sorts of stuff right before my eyes, like my images all chopped and cropped into bikini models, or my status updates going “looking for wild stuff tonight” .

God I cannot tell in measures about the ridiculousness of my thoughts and that it didn’t see any bounds , all kinds of weird stuff surrounded me that very moment and it was just a few seconds that had passed.

I mustered a lot of courage to Log into my account to check if there has been any change, as if my mind was telling me it has changed already, ” go why not see it, something is cooler than yourself !”

Thankfully nothing was there it was all “AS IT IS” , silent and sober, i communicated about the password change request to Facebook help center , and later on managed to change my passwords as well, so was the fear that i changed not only Facebook but some other Important account passwords as well, All in all the process i was cursing myself as to why i share so much information , pics , updates, check Ins  etc.

Now all that now is OK am still continuing with my luck with Facebook and constantly checking my email for updates on any more intrusions into my account.

I wonder why couldn’t i still Delete or Deactivate my account , its all due to the addiction of virtual friends, the constant need for attention, and becoming little hero’s and heroines of our mini social world. This lust for attention and sharing the glamorous side of our life makes us feel proud , alive and more lively, as if life is nothing more than a Selfie or a Check In update at a 7 star hotel.

We are all addicted to this life that’s make us feel part of the Crowd and that we are no less than stars , and that our life is grand and we do everything Grand .

This becomes a habit, a serious change in behavior happens that leads to depression and other psychological problems, for everything you share becomes a ritual if not done, leads to serious mental breakdown of self. In all this while, people who prey on you get to know you so very well that they will try to take advantage of all this.

And we unknowingly keep sharing and sharing more stuff, then one day its all over with a HACK that shreds our life apart.

Am happy for am not such a share addict and have been limiting myself from sharing everything since my life is not so so glamorous neither am I a Hot Pot of Glam !

I thank myself for being the EXTRA ….ORDINARY and Dear God , tell me  “WHO IN THE WORLD IS THIS SOMEBODY, WHO”S STUPID ENOUGH TO BE THIS MUCH INTERESTED IN MY NON GLAMOROUS & NOT SO HAPPENING LIFE.

Help him or her to know that they are wasting their precious time on me. hhahahhahahahaahha Lolz :

Going Rituals : Explore Spirituality with Cow’s Dung

Recently i went to my mom’s place for the puja and ceremonies that were to be performed by me ,being the new born baby’s Aunt. These rituals are mostly done in the hindu families where the child is born and more rituals are followed where we have a baby boy born into the family unlike little things done when a girl is born but there are many liberal families where ceremonies are performed with happiness and joy even on the birth of a baby girl.

So we had a lot of ceremonies accompanied with kirtan nights for almost 7 days  that were full of songs and dance , along this there was loads of work for me specially i had to forgo my expectations of being specially treated or greeted on arriving home few months after my marriage . hahahaha. well i never expect that, and my mom straight away directed me for work i had to do and all the other things to be taken care of, specially by me.

So the rituals started with functions, first was putting satiyas (卐 Swastik symbol) is an auspacious hindu symbol to bring good fortune and luck with them, i made those on the dholak to begin with the kirtans ( song and dance) . Another thing i’d like to tell you is that i cannot do without the satiyas puja ,Trust me without satiyas, i cannot start anything new , even on buying a new gas oven i put satiyas with haldi mixed in water or be it for the new laptop i just make them . So the dholak pujan was done by putting haldi swastikas on both side of the dholaks and then playing it and singing few songs with old ladies with the Dholak Feet  😉 …

It was followed by prashad and food arranged at the terrace by putting tents and chairs for the relatives and neighbors who’d come for the lunch but due to heavy rains the tents got wet and we had to arrange everything inside the room but it was all the more fun and everyone enjoyed the food and rain together. here are some snaps of the event.

All this was good fun with  the overload of so much work i had to run up and down three floors taking care of guests , my sister in law her baby and my mother who just cannot do without mixing up all the work  and going crazy on such occasions due to management and a lot of mis management of work .

But for me “vue” was like a relief ,as we call him all my tiredness and lethargy went away taking him in my arms i walked in the   veranda all night and day singing to him and swinging him in my arms,we still  haven’t decided with the name for him and so we call him, vue, Illa, Inga, Inge, tushu . Illa And Inga because when he cries it sounds as if the wailing sound is ILLAAAAA  ILAAAA and now its INGAAAAA INGAAAEE.  Lolz so that’s how the names originated.

And now we had the keeping of satiyas this thing was completely new to me as well , i had imagined doing it on the wall with haldi , chandan or kumkum, but never imagined doing it with the Cow’s Dung (gobar) .

As i got over with this, that ok, i have to dig my hands into that polythene bag in which the glorious cow dung was stored for me.  anyhow it seemed ok no worries i will do it i know how to make a swastika its easy ,but then it was not just the satiya ,what frightened me was the things i had to draw on the wall with bare hands and thick cow dung  more intricate designs that can not be wrongly done . to inspect me i had 3 to 4 old ladies and the bunch of middle aged women looking at me seriously. I had to make very specific designs and it was like a test to my artistry skills though am not that good in arts . as if this wasn’t enough to put me through grill and grind one more test was insert a thin long stick of grain that should not break or damage in the process into the satiyas. whewwww. Time to put the dung into action .

And not just that it was one design but there were two walls beside the door which had to had two different designs i completed one thought it was over but then here comes the women in blue my grandma saying ” ek aur banana hai chori abhi se ke thak ri hai ” ( O  Girl you’re tired already , you have to make one more ). Ok no problem ill do it and so i made one more and now this was a lot more easy i thought but actually both designs were as difficult as i never thought.

 

Actually some may give out an eww or aikk at the sound of cow dung but i take it as the most divine and spiritual encounter to place my hands into that warm cold moist cow dung its something more than that it connects me with smells of village and more ethnic side of me , had i been in the village i could decorate the walls and floors with it as they actually do it still today. Cow dung is so holy and so divine that we use it for the most holy rituals ,forget marriage what more is divine and sacred than the birth of a new life in which we use it and its so important just like the holy mother cow or GAU MATA as we call her.

 

I would just love to share an instance that my uncle or mamaji (my mothers brother) told us when they used to live in the village before coming to city and settling here to make new wealth and riches that he has now. He said that in the village there were no lights or fans, coolers for the summer seasons and thus the ground got all heated up, and it was impossible to keep your feet cool even with water as the matka’s ( earthern pots ) couldn’t cool water as much as the refrigerators do nowadays , so what he did like the other friends, was that he would put his feet into the cow dung and stand there for hours feeling cool, relaxed and refreshed .

Imagining him doing this now it just cant be he’s a big man now literally, but id love to put my feet into the cow dung to feel that warmth and good am blessed i could do it with my hands still. Its such a spiritual experience only who will do it, can explore it.

Here’s some picture of those designs i made with cow dung , haldi, wheat stick, wheat flour .

The Nights were full of fun and dance with all the ladies from our neighborhood dancing and singing songs . Some snaps of those too

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

So I miss my home now as am back home with my hubby , couldn’t be there for some more days just a week as i longed for my hubby too being there, he missed me every day and so i cut short my visit and came back to him . I am blessed to have such a wonderful family here and there . i wish there come’s a time when i could have both families just a mile away rather than being mile’s away.

Beyond Love and Everything

With the grace and blessings of Lord Shiva, am happy to share some great news with everyone,that is par happiness and beyond my expectations . With so much strains and struggles finally my love is freed of his struggles and miseries. now we can happily be with each other after years of separation, wait, and tears that mingled with hope and prayers that one day it will change and end for there has to be good. 

A beautiful light after all these years of darkness and gloom we finally embrace each other and our lives to live together. though we are still left with little hurdles like he needs to get a job but that isn’t coming our way to get together now.

And am sure Shiv baba will take care of everything .

In all these times i never gave up on Shiv ji, i accepted the bad phase along the good and thanked him still for keeping me and him alive in all these traumatic situations that went through us and meant nothing but to break us and break our spirits .

I still prayed, fasted, hoped and believed in Shiv baba and my prayers did reach him with all my heart, and it happened that he answered them in such a beautiful way i could never ever imagine.

Am more than happy today and hopeful to see the coming days for there is balance that has to happen in life of everyone. 

Along this i wish that everyone out there with their struggles and pain should not give up on hope there will be good there will be balance , you just need to wait and keep your faith alive .

Continue with your prayers and rituals never give up on them in bad times, for there is God and he is listening its just that there’s a long queue before you and for sure your turn will come. Just hang on. 

Karma Decides Destiny

Krishna Enlightening Arjuna about his Karma to Fight the Mahabharata Yudh to Retain Dharma on Earth.

Understand about destiny , it usually means something which is predetermined , now what has been already decided, will happen or not, who will come to witness that, have you ever thought about.

Just imagine that If you want to eat a chocolate now, you will eat it if its there around you at home, or go and buy it from the market and eat it . But consider another situation where you want to eat it in the middle of the night, if the shops close at 1 am and you couldn’t eat the chocolate then you blame it on your destiny, for not being able to fulfill your wish, but you never realize about the circumstance s that you are already aware of and still act naive and blame everything on your destiny.

Destiny is almost nothing and just a meaning in the sense of being predetermined.

Rather destiny is what you create yourself with your own hands by choosing the KARMIC actions you perform all your life and this is your function , this is your role and this is what you do and should do all life.

Karma is our actions/ deeds and behavior that we do all our lives and this is what shapes and creates our future or our present. People often forget about Karma and believe in “Bhagya” in Hindi or Fate in English which gives rise to unravel ling the mystery of this Bhagya or fate in the Kundlis or Birth charts that again generate a cycle of going after planets, stars , signs and remedies to cure or even changing our fate, It is quite unfortunate to observe that people often waste tonnes of money in these activities and never ever realize that there is nothing that can be done to change anything about life it goes by your karma and not through destiny. They eagerly wish and hope for MAGIC or MIRACLES to happen that would change.

Very often we just cannot give up on accepting that there is nothing like unseen forces, power, rituals or practices that can change the way we exist . because we love  it so much being dependent, to be connected for our needs and wishes that whoever says whatever to us to create our destiny, we tend to follow them blindly overlooking facts and logic .

One more thing i remember is that only the people in distress or who believe in miracles, or who are weak spirited go for such remedies and practices, they do not believe in the power of their own karma . They override their faith,beliefs and consequences of their own actions / behavior that is their own Karma that they do .

Karma is only what you do or have been doing all this time long , it is what you Choose to do between good and bad, truth or false, happy or sad, positive or negative, accept or reject and much more , it is the Freedom we never think about while we make the Choice to do what we want to do , nobody has snatched that choice from us isn’t it ? Then the concern is if we are the ones who do everything who choose and make decision every time for what next action will be then how is destiny planned or predetermined and if it were be that, then why should we believe in it so much, where its us who has the Control. The destiny does not even help,hinders or defines or decides what actions we take, other than our own willingness.

So, We actually have one thing to do is help our destiny shape, the way we want or like it to be,  by being conscious and doing the right karma and forget about the results and surrender to the power of god and let him take care of it. We actually fear about so many things , the planets, the destiny,the kundli, the rituals and god that we actually forget about our KARMA . In this process we try to be gods because we wish to Control and Believe that our actions, our karma is predestined and it had to be the way it should or what these unseen forces want us to do is what we actually do.

This is not right as we are afraid to uphold the sole responsibility of our deeds or actions i.e Karma ourselves . As its always the individual who decides and make the choice and is the performer, so how can anything other thing, that will come later holds responsibility for the karma you do today. Its always your call to wake up or not, to perform good action, behave right and tread upon a value, virtuous and righteous path that is good for us and others as well and doesn’t harm anyone in anyway.

Its best to Love god and surrender to him and leave everything to him and just do your karma that is your responsibility alone, as Krishna says Do your karma and dont worry about the results, leave them to me.