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Karma Decides Destiny

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Krishna Enlightening Arjuna about his Karma to Fight the Mahabharata Yudh to Retain Dharma on Earth.

Understand about destiny , it usually means something which is predetermined , now what has been already decided, will happen or not, who will come to witness that, have you ever thought about.

Just imagine that If you want to eat a chocolate now, you will eat it if its there around you at home, or go and buy it from the market and eat it . But consider another situation where you want to eat it in the middle of the night, if the shops close at 1 am and you couldn’t eat the chocolate then you blame it on your destiny, for not being able to fulfill your wish, but you never realize about the circumstance s that you are already aware of and still act naive and blame everything on your destiny.

Destiny is almost nothing and just a meaning in the sense of being predetermined.

Rather destiny is what you create yourself with your own hands by choosing the KARMIC actions you perform all your life and this is your function , this is your role and this is what you do and should do all life.

Karma is our actions/ deeds and behavior that we do all our lives and this is what shapes and creates our future or our present. People often forget about Karma and believe in “Bhagya” in Hindi or Fate in English which gives rise to unravel ling the mystery of this Bhagya or fate in the Kundlis or Birth charts that again generate a cycle of going after planets, stars , signs and remedies to cure or even changing our fate, It is quite unfortunate to observe that people often waste tonnes of money in these activities and never ever realize that there is nothing that can be done to change anything about life it goes by your karma and not through destiny. They eagerly wish and hope for MAGIC or MIRACLES to happen that would change.

Very often we just cannot give up on accepting that there is nothing like unseen forces, power, rituals or practices that can change the way we exist . because we love  it so much being dependent, to be connected for our needs and wishes that whoever says whatever to us to create our destiny, we tend to follow them blindly overlooking facts and logic .

One more thing i remember is that only the people in distress or who believe in miracles, or who are weak spirited go for such remedies and practices, they do not believe in the power of their own karma . They override their faith,beliefs and consequences of their own actions / behavior that is their own Karma that they do .

Karma is only what you do or have been doing all this time long , it is what you Choose to do between good and bad, truth or false, happy or sad, positive or negative, accept or reject and much more , it is the Freedom we never think about while we make the Choice to do what we want to do , nobody has snatched that choice from us isn’t it ? Then the concern is if we are the ones who do everything who choose and make decision every time for what next action will be then how is destiny planned or predetermined and if it were be that, then why should we believe in it so much, where its us who has the Control. The destiny does not even help,hinders or defines or decides what actions we take, other than our own willingness.

So, We actually have one thing to do is help our destiny shape, the way we want or like it to be,  by being conscious and doing the right karma and forget about the results and surrender to the power of god and let him take care of it. We actually fear about so many things , the planets, the destiny,the kundli, the rituals and god that we actually forget about our KARMA . In this process we try to be gods because we wish to Control and Believe that our actions, our karma is predestined and it had to be the way it should or what these unseen forces want us to do is what we actually do.

This is not right as we are afraid to uphold the sole responsibility of our deeds or actions i.e Karma ourselves . As its always the individual who decides and make the choice and is the performer, so how can anything other thing, that will come later holds responsibility for the karma you do today. Its always your call to wake up or not, to perform good action, behave right and tread upon a value, virtuous and righteous path that is good for us and others as well and doesn’t harm anyone in anyway.

Its best to Love god and surrender to him and leave everything to him and just do your karma that is your responsibility alone, as Krishna says Do your karma and dont worry about the results, leave them to me.

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Beyond Gender : Whole is more than sum of its Parts

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Single Entity GAURISHANKAR.

Since Childhood I’ve heard these words but could never unravel the facts or forces that goes around them. I’ve been quite naive in understanding the true meaning or the essentials about, what embodies the concept of feminism or masculinity or gender as a whole in true sense.

Though i frequently used to use such words in my essays and writings ,depicting and relating  to empowerment of the womenfolk at one hand and how brave and courageous are men in history.

But I was never able to gauge the real essence of these words, even after having almost vicarious experiences when the very significance of my being a women was in question and how i was being afflicted by the masculine beings, in all this i never realized how should i explore or should i explore the feminist in me ?, to get myself upright against the men.

The search began in the troubled waters, and still remained unidentified for some time,in the mean time i was actually away from all the problems and deplorable conditions, and that too without any feminism that came to rescue me.

I actually didn’t needed any gender role to help me nor any special femininity, i discovered that being a gender is being average but being a human is being the best to solve life and its issues in an objective and Superior way.

Being in control of one’s gender or sex controls the problem solving skills and limits our conscience for taking decisions in an unbiased manner is what i discovered eventually.

Its been only when i was able to think conscientiously about the other gender in specific and its nothing i keep against my own but its a way to differentiate between what is wrong and what is right, not who is wrong or who is right . it is completely off the base for any gender .

I’ve come across many textbooks during school time that our societal setup is governed by patriarchal or matriarchal structure in different, different communities or castes, influenced and maligned by favoritism and subjectivity, with regard to issues and concerns, dealing with gender roles and responsibilities. In the same way the Family, Relationships be it boyfriend and girlfriend, men and women, among friends, sisters and brothers, others, have this prominence of Domination by any of the gender controlling and occupying the major portions of decisions and role- responsibilities.

Here such setups and gender variance have influenced the peace and harmony of many relationships and almost created a divide among the two, due to inadvertent behavior .

The focus which i imply for this is to think yourself as  “NON GENDER”, i know this may sound weird and obnoxious but here may be, the key to bridge every difference and resolve issues when it comes to relationships and love.

 But we can try to achieve and attain good positive outcomes if we connect with the human side of our being and not the gender.what happens here i shall explain..

” when you have a fight say with your spouse , you may think about the verbal or non verbal behavior that affected you , and how one could demean your status , you being a man or women , got hit on your ego, your thoughts, your decisions, your ideas, your actions, here everything relates to your gender “first”- you may cry being a women, or man, or even burst out in anger being a man, or a women, the two cordially relates to the first gender being talked about , the second one if displayed such behavior would in normal settings be disapproved of ” .

So the thin line here is to Accept the behavior without the gender in concern, moreover its for both to consider the actions and deeds of others and self in a non gender specific way , and find more reasonable and logical occurrences for issues.

I cannot refrain myself from relating an Ideal relationship of Lord Shiva and Devi Parvati who are above any gender and complete forms of each other..

Shiva is called the Ardhnarishwar, that is half man 

and Devi parvati as Ardhangini .half women.

They are Incomplete without each other, their form is complete only when the two meet and join to form into one supreme part as  Gauri Shankar.

Every relationship should aim for such togetherness idealizing Shiv and Parvati who are above any gender norms and form

to sum up i can recall another very great statement that has affected me for long…                     that “the whole is more than the sum of its parts”. as stated by gestalts applies aptly here.

Reset Your Factory Settings to “Yes”

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Today how often do you hear” YES” whenever you or anyone asked for some help or some work ?

It may puzzle you to think about the above statement, but seriously isn’t the word “YES” heard very rarely today  in office or among your friends and family .

Its true indeed , a lot of thoughts flood our mind soon after someone asks us for a favor  to resolve an issue, to take up some task, to volunteer for some work, to assist in some activity, do an extra piece of work, or just anything, we are full of fear and feel so heavy, burdened , stressed and fixed in a dilemma what to say a Yes or a No..

What happens then is that we simply say a No where we could have chosen a YES to do or perform some thing that could have  had new learning opportunities for us or even bring us goodness by doing something for the others and make us feel great.

But In any case…

“The word ‘NO’ has some FUN element attached to it That ‘YES’ can never have“, which is why we so much love to use it and so often, really for instance one of my acquaintances has this massive potential of saying No to everything that comes to her minute after minute and  it  surprises me so much, as how can anyone be so lazy or i should say so mean

I asked her,

“why do you say No to everything yaar at least you can do one thing in a day” ?

To this she conveniently replies..

” dear, No saves me from extra work and why should i say yes when i can say No easily and no one has a problem with it”

Hmmmm smart enough but is it right to say No so frequently and where does it take you or this world , Imagine where you approach anyone for help and all you get to hear is NO, NO, NO from everyone . Isn’t it a sorry state a world full of inhuman’s .

To unlearn this word No, think about why are we so afraid of this Yes because its full of responsibility and needs you to go that extra mile for someone always. the Best way to counter is to focus on the brighter side of  Yes,that carries a lot shining traits it like responsibility, credibility,sensibility, trust, respect, virtue, wisdom, maturity, decency, humility and many more, whereas,

‘No’, carries lightness, freedom, carefree, relaxed, unburdened etc feelings.

But there is more to this No, where many of us who blindly or even bluntly reject a plea or request by someone who approaches us for something with some work or for help we tend to make excuse or just flatly say the word, and feel relaxed that we are smart or made a great escape, but actually we lost a good opportunity to create a mark in the lives of others and mostly ourselves, where it could contribute to our own growth and many a times sincere people may even feel guilty for not having helped someone and may lose on a goodnight sleep.

In view of the above many should think, about saying YES as a positive influence in their life that entails the provision of nurturing so many more positive traits . But things dont end here in religiously following this Yes, there’s a way to practice it and apply it for the betterment of self and others as well.

Thereby some discouraging factors that follow Yes are there, where one may be subjected to unscrupulous tasks being loaded over them at workplaces or among the peers,and no doubt its true because our society makes indiscriminate use of those who say Yes and label them as fools forever, who does all the work and can be given more as he/she may never use the word NO.

The bottom line here is to make Best use of Yes so that it doesn’t discourage or depreciates your value or identity in any way and helps in facilitating your positive personality growth and inner peace that contributes to your spiritual, physical and mental well being.

If you find that a particular situation of person is indefinitely using your abilities and taking advantage of your approvals then you can pleasantly say No, it doesn’t harm you or the other as they will get their work done if not from you than any other one for sure.

The Yes word is not something to feel pressurized about rather its a very Humane and magnanimous way of presenting yourself among others that makes you unique and stand out . So just Click on the Button Yes and reset your life to the old self you were always like a kid   who embraces Yes every time be it dark or sunshine.