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The Good News Syndrome

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Oh Gosh am so tired of being asked this question so many times, its been only 6 month or so since i got married and there isn’t any one being who hasn’t asked me the million dollar question, Good News kab suna rahi hai, or good news kab degi ? ( when will you tell us about the good news or when are you going to give good news ) .

Am literally sick of the questions that make me feel that am guilty of not planning a baby or that we were using protection or just not wanting to have it right now, which is seriously not the case.

Why do people have to ask such things i can expect it from my relatives or family but why should my friends ask this, this totally unexpected from them .

Am always in favor of responding to people in a very polite and genuine way that we are ready to have a baby whenever it would happen by god’s will, when it has to happen, its not in my hands actually they must know.  

Then why is everybody after me, i can really not understand,  its like am the one who is responsible for not giving them the good news because they want to hear it .Funny Pregnancy Ecard: Its been just some Months since ive been married not some years. People please stop 'Expecting' on my Behalf !

More over if this doesn’t suffice, they ask me all sorts of questions that you must plan , have ,and consult gynecologist and so on , yes yes we will do that only if we see that, we have crossed our time or that its been 2 years of our marriage and still we haven’t have a baby , our marriage just got into 7th month and people are drooling over me like flies and it started in 2nd month only !

I don’t know why is everyone so worried even my good old “Educated” , “Modern” friends ask me this every time they call , and its making me become more patient, dealing with their queries, i keep giving them all sorts of answers thinking that one day they might stop asking , but no they are still going on pretty smooth.

I am just married and enjoying every bit of this moment and am even ready to get pregnant and be a mother, and am all prepared and geared up for whatever has to come to my life , But Let It Come , Let it Happen All by itself , why force it or pressurize it to happen.

This is the problem with our society even before you are born , problems exist in form of whether you arrive late or early and then when you arrive, problems related to gender, month, time and date in which you were born, after that if you are a boy what will you become engineer , doctor etc,

And god forbid if you are born a girl , your life, education, society, marriage, dowry, rape , everything related to your existence becomes the bone of contention for whole life .

Anyhow am not going away from my topic. I cannot understand why there’s so much fuss about the “good news”, its like people who ask me this, their life depends on my having a baby as if some thing good will only occur to them if i have a baby, and all this time they are expecting on my behalf !!!

When will they understand and let me be with my present, and let god decide everything rather than playing little God’s themselves. A baby is blessing of god who brings happiness that’s there to stay forever and that only happens when your time has come and when god decides for it to happen.

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The Prophecy : Hate Crimes

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What Nostradamus Says Will happen Next ..man shall become a man-eater !

And that day is not too far, as we all see and witness the truth where the skies wont fall nor the earth will tear apart to end the mankind . But the mankind alone will be victim of their own vice and evil that would end their existence forever.

In the wake of so many unfolding events that have shaped the face of this earth that looks  more cruel and devilish, there is hardly any hopes left for other generations.

We have progressed remarkably in terms of technological growth and made our lives utmost pleasant be it homes or at workplace, with the spurt of information and technological advancement in every forte is believable in fact, but the truth remains unseen, that we have forgot to change our mindset which still hasn’t progressed much.

Still many sections of our society and many people at individual level have not embraced the newness as for them being progressive and following the revolution is still a distant concept, which they do not wish to live or realize.

This happens because on one hand there is a section of people who are in the mainstream, running, progressing and moving up the ladder of change and live an enriching life with global experiences, while on the other hand we have a section of people who are trapped in their own thoughts, contemplating their own ideas and crave to match those with the ones who are in the mainstream .

The people who are either forced to step back or who choose to live this way tend to find themselves a midst happening things which they are not able to comprehend or cope with, in such situations they feel stifled as soon they realize that how far behind they are left in the mad race, and as soon they come to terms with this reality they try hard to make things even for them.

Some people who are kind enough follow the nice route like working hard, or doing more struggles or starting things with a scratch to reach or match to, and for the others its a mad race to win and they find the ugliest route possible to match or reach up, to feel that they are no less than those they envy .

Now the behavioral actions that these people take up is beyond extreme and in some cases shall be termed as inhuman as they turn to harm those people with whom they envy or wish to even up and no other way can they see lest to end the competition than the race itself,  no more they shall have to worry about follow ups or running anymore and this is how they end things and win it over.

The world still does not wait or stop to see where things go bad or why do they actually happen the way it shouldn’t have been, but then we all think alike that unless it happens to us we are least bothered about escalating the issue and even if we think about it at the ground level by doing some basic research that it was all the work of a mad man’s unfulfilled desires, we learn to tolerate and become patient with it with time, because there is law, there is a system and there is humanity that we follow being Educated Reformists.

Do we ever think that, we need to look  into the human mind, the people on streets the people whom we left behind, so that they do not come in front of us, all of a sudden to question or answer it with a kill, we must reflect into their psychology before the world ends for us or they end the world for us.

The atrocious killings of humans during war,  hate crimes,  massacres ,mass shooting, rapes, physical or mental torture, brutality meted out to innocent people and all this is happening even right now during this moment while i write this blog . This world is on the brink of collapsing where there would be no space for the people to run or cherish anymore, for there is so much of evil taking rounds and people are day by day becoming more individualistic, practical, selfish , self centered and running .

Its time we should see what we do and turn the pages of other people’s lives because criminals or people who hate us are among ourselves and we must identify and help them to help avert such fateful events that have already happened in past and quite recently. its time we should acknowledge that technology alone  cannot help us to live in peace and survive rather the humans are capable enough to help survive and live in peace .

We can do without progress, revolution, technology and other things that make our life great in times today, but we cannot do without peace and ability to survive, we are constantly living in the age where our survival is under threat.

 

Reach Home Safe

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It is the concern of every mother, father and   brother that their daughter or sister reaches home safely every day from school, college or work. But the Concern remains merely a mental concern, as we are all helpless when we are faced with adverse situations where the concern takes a jump out of our conscience and turns to frustration and anger for being utterly helpless.

Its a truth in light of so many events that have happened so far where crimes of sexual abuse against children and women are on the rise and the bureaucracy , judiciary and the government is unable to do anything to save these vulnerable section of our society form the ghastly crimes perpetrated upon them.

Its a myth to believe in the police or judiciary both are least sensitive and least bothered about these issues and wait for the time these issues will subside so that they can carry on again with access of ease to other concerns of their private benefits rather than the people. The government waits upon the victims to either die or the issue to die out so that they can continue enjoying in the parliament.

 

In view of the above its nonsense to go on blaming and protesting against all these elements of the Constitution rather its need that the people alone should do something to save the women in the society so that they can feel safe and reach safe everyday. Its time we need some serious NGOs or Social Entrepreneurs in this regard who can come up with techniques and tools that can guarantee women s safety and even helps them to defend themselves.

If we are able to sensitize children in school, colleges and work places who can stand up for the women safety, they can help in guarding women if they come across or witness any crimes against them , even a change in the few may lead to remarkable sensitization that will flourish and people will be inspired even more to help the women. And in the meantime we can just protest for getting tough laws to protect women and help those victims to lead better life not as victims but as warriors.