I have been Tagged by Ajay ji (Ajaytao2010) thank you so much for tagging me.
Ajay ji, a very down to earth person, living his life zestfully that is reflected in his blogs. I’ve never been able to see any speck or shade of his illness (cancer) in his writings or pictures that he posts in his blogs. He writes very nice poetry and i came to know it recently through a Hindi poem that he posted . Ajay ji is a real fighter at heart and i admire his genuineness, he never mixes mind with his words and whatever comes in his conversation pours out straight from his heart. Such people are rare to find. i can go on talking a lot more about him but the game needs to be attended so…
Rules of the game :-
1. Post these rules.
2. Post a photo of yourself and eleven random facts about you.
4. Create eleven new questions and tag new people to answer them.
5. Go to their blog/twitter and let them know they have been tagged.
11 Random facts about me :-
1. I love to play with little kids rather going out with my friends.
2. I have a fetish to buy cosmetics but scarcely use them.
3. I love to teach the poor street kids.
5. I love the idea of simple and very slow life .
6. I wish to do a lot for the poor and slum kids like open an amusement park with food etc just for them.
7. I love railway stations more than the airports.
9. I can pretend to be happy even if am deeply sad.
10. I care a lot about people around me.
11. I always remain hopeful and positive about life come what may.
Answer of the questions given to me in the tagger post :-
1. The most unforgettable moment of your life?
2. One fictitious character you completely relate to?
Balika Vadhu’s Anandi, her life’s journey is so much similar to mine.
3. The best compliment you ever received?
Am an authentic person
4.Do you have a regret for a lifetime?
Nothing to regret its karma
5. The one thing you love about yourself ?
6.If you had to live someone else’s life for a single day who would that be?
7.Who is your favorite writer?
Bloggers inspire me more than the writers
8. Your most favorite place in this whole world?
9. Define love in a single word.
10. Do you believe in miracles and magic?
No, I believe in Karma
11. The most unforgettable experience of a lifetime?
My school girls cried when i was transferred, their unconditional love was heart warming experience
11 New Questions for my Nominees
Q.1 What is your life’s most amazing experience ?
Q.2 What do you like the most about yourself ?
Q.3 Are you an optimist ?
Q.5 What is your deepest fear in life ?
Q.6 What is your dream topic for a blog post ?
Q.7 Who influences you the most in life ?
Q.8 Do you regret anything in past or present ?
Q.10 Do you like to help around people ?
Q.11 Two words that describe you
My Nominees are:
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Thank you & Regards
‘NO’ is the most famous and luxurious word in the vocabulary of human’s who can easily exercise it as and when required or desired.
The word ‘No’ carries lot of perks and prosperity with it, that help the person who addresses this word, does so to avoid or devoid someone of his /her interests and rest the case for themselves.
Saying ‘No’ often brings disgrace and disrespect for the people who do not back down for anyone looking for approvals against their own interests. And its often mistaken as the person may be considered rude or manner less or devoid of emotions, and those at the receiving end might feel the heat of being ignored or turned down and may accumulate unhealthy feelings in their hearts.
The person holding the ‘No’ position remains the same though, with peace and guilt unanimously, but the person who hears a ‘No’ bears the brunt of disapproval and apathy for life and may generalize his/her feeling if they get to hear it repetitively even from their friends and family.
Hearing a ‘No’ and turning down opinions affects the mental and emotional sanity of a person and he/she may get disheartened soon .
In the above situation one thing is for certain that ‘No’ and actually the person saying it is are not bound to change since no has flavour of its own and since No is so arrogant and professional in nature we continuously fail in the process of bringing change to it.
On a very rational note when things are clear and unchangeable then its our immediate responsibility for using ‘ and misusing ‘No’ quite certainly.
‘No’ can accommodate various kinds of tones with it, a polite no, a simple no, a rude no, or an angry no but we look as No is a No is a No.
However, this ‘No’ must be misused judiciously since it has s bundle of opportunities with it and should be seen as thd harbinger of good things that need to be observed, life comes with lot of disappintments and disapprovals and it is true that it never remains the same and is bound to change .
Here are plenty of people across the globe who have suffered a lot of disapprovals in their life and in almost every sphere be it professional or personal and they still had the potential to change and turn things around them to create a space for them to be approved and respected for their views and ideology.
To look at ‘No’ in a positive light we can attribute it to the of opportunities that awaits one, where so many ideas, proposals, needs and decisions are disapproved but one should explore the facets of exercising these in his/her own fashion to get them implemented. Its again not easy as it seems but not impossible as it may look to be, rather than sitting all life with disappointment and disgust one can discover novel opportunities for his/her future to undergo changes and prove themselves.
The art to change this no into an opportunity zone comes only through a deep reflection of your views that one may think are important enough and need to be recognized by the others. Its not that disapproval from one or many, becomes an end in itself. If a person wants to revolutionize with time, then everything is subject to change and even the faces we meet change as we begin to move beyond ‘No’.
Its never the end, where disapproval brings discomfort it also triggers observation and challenge us to change and spark revolution within ourself.
In view of the the topic mentioned above perhaps maybe some or many of us would find it rather very hard to believe in the above statement moreover it may scare some.
Because We all share the same level and space of committing mistakes as we are not born perfect and the ones who are not perfect have limited scope of becoming role models or inspires or even leaders.
And its absolutely wrong if some of us believe in the statement right above, because i think and strongly feel that to become a source of inspiration and leader one need not be perfect, one should always have that space to commit an error and then working over it to improve.
Life is too long to live and there are plenty of situations and contexts where one can err , and its not that if one happens to do an error one cannot be the leader but it becomes difficult to work over such roles if after mistakes one tries to defend it by making a lot of excuses in a rush or even forgetting to care about the same. this may take a larger picture even because when the mistake was absorbed by a large number of people around you, and by chance there was nothing you did at that time to amend or improve it, then for sure your impression may not be good on them.
Its a routine that people have short memory when it comes to recollecting about a person, the negative memories flood over the positive ones and they create a much larger picture of the whole personality that creates an overall disapproval for him/her. And therefore even on working hard, having great potential and skills some people cannot become leaders or great role models.
One thing Can be done to overcome mistakes is to refresh people’s memory by immediately following up the mistake by making apologies to save your impressions forever in the memories of people who can remember about you as the person who is visibly a good man/woman, noble, humble, honest, and mature to accept his/ her mistake and apologize or improve it having the courage to do so in front of everyone.
This Gesture is immensely approved and seen as mark of respect and honor, everyone appreciates this kind of behavior .
Its not that difficult to do so because every action has its repercussion and it may seem that in times today it is foolish to admit mistakes in front of so many people be it work or home, it seriously puts a badge over that person who may seem to be a bundle of mistakes and errors .
But if you have the sheer courage to accept it and learn the lesson from it and pass that lesson to others would make a significant difference and this is the key point to let others learn .
The best way to become an inspiration for self and others is to begin at home where often parents commit a variety of mistakes in front of their kids, like simple things we do, forgetting to take them for outing or smoking even after promising them to quit . Kids are great observers they observe every action the elders do and being honest and sincere with them is the best way one can enrich their good traits and solidify them so that it becomes a practice and follows you as your integral part of Integrity .
The simplest and sweetest way to improve is be transparent with your kids and become their source of Inspiration and not only that even their Role Model .
Today I read about “being cooperating or collaborating which one influences success” an article by Danial burrus .
“You cooperate because you have to; you collaborate because you want to”
I agree that people in different situations of life or workplace pick any one of the above and apply it as and when required.
Cooperation in some ways is subjected to want and compliance merely to be part of the team or work one has to perform , whereas Collaboration is a completely positive term where the person is willingly being part of the situation or work even if there is presence or absence of some interest of the individual involved in those.
Success majorly depends upon the amount of interaction and commitment of the individuals involved in the task who facilitate group cohesiveness, where they collaborate to achieve a certain goal.
For instance there can be a workplace where a particular assignment is given to two different teams where one team cooperates and another collaborates to complete it.
Cooperation : the team lacks motivation, its more about the willingness of the members involved, social loafing becomes prominent , no clear vision and goal orientation, lack of involvement and devoid of challenges.
Collaboration : its positive in outlook, motivation among members, team spirit, goal oriented, focus on goal and completion of assignment.
Collaboration is a more social and positive term than cooperation where individual love to willingly work for the benefit of others or themselves in a serious manner where the goal is not deprived of motivation or carelessness.