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Imagination is No Cure

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Every second and every moment of that second am not feeling good , I live in a state of loss , blank, depressed , sad , weak, unable to talk , eat or sleep.

I am not able to comprehend the fact that am so unable to enjoy the happiness of being married and the new life that succeeds, there’s absolutely no problem , people around me are putting good efforts to let me in and give space enough to adjust and live thoroughly.

But I feel like a culprit unable to control my emotions , tears immediately crawl down my face and spread the sadness in me and around me , where my hubby continuously tries to make me calm down even though he is tired and affected by office work , he still loves me and cares for me very much.

I feel guilty for not being able to adapt and accept my present, for am clinging to much to my family at home in Delhi and the longing continuous to grow inside me with every passing day, its just the feeling of being so far away from them that makes me burst into tears, the thought that am no longer with them makes me feel lonely and depressed.

Having been with them for the past 26 years ive never been to hostel, tuitions or any other place away from them not even the relatives or friends night out’s etc . so it makes things more difficult, located into such a different state not being able to meet or see them often makes me choke inside. Had I been located there, then at least i could have had some satisfaction that I can go or they can come to see me and life could have been all pleasant.

But what’s at hand needs to be tackled and imagination is no longer a cure for me now , as I go on thinking like there’s a park near our society I imagine my niece playing on its swings , then I imagine my mother sleeping beside me on my bed , it really makes things even more worse, the fact that am not accepting the reality is breaking me down and even not making things any good for my married life.

Am not interested in anything , I just go about the daily rituals , the daily life chores etc and not even talk or discuss anything with my hubby , it pains me and deeply saddens me when he leaves home for work in the morning , I feel guilty for he remains tensed to see me in such a state day in and day out, so my mental state is making my married life not any good.

Am unable to figure out what will I do to overcome all this mental sadness and longingness. All my wishes , desires, confidence, interests and tastes are becoming numb day after day. I don’t know where to look for help now .

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Explore: Your Creative Best !

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Nurture creativity among you and the young ones, to reap the fruits of success

 

Its really hard to find what is best in us because there are so many opportunities that we may get to work for in life and many that we dont even know about their existence. In such events it becomes necessary to experience as many thin gs in life so that we may get to know and see what we are best in doing.

I may not know if i were good in gymnastics or ballet dance or playing piano or a guitar, because  i did not get the opportunity to try and experience them so far.

And this is why i feel that every child during his/her childhood should be given ample scope to try each and every sports , creative activities, technology, spirituality, and many other fores of life where if it is possible for parents they should try every endeavor to let their kids discover their true talents and where their creativity holds.

There might be many reasons where some kids may not be able to get such opportunities to explore their creative potentials in such circumstances the best thing you can give a child is “freedom”of, choice where he /she can choose the activity , hobby, interest that they like the most doing . This will nurture self reliance and confidence among them for even getting a choice, where they can transform their habit, interests into their passion and lead to innovation or developing their creative best talent.

For Kids it is as much important as academics and care for their development. But there is no age bar when it comes to finding your best even adults can discover their true talents at any stage of their life and try to maximize acquiring and benefiting from the opportunities galore that is there today to try their hands on every skill set through finding needful time on weekends and holidays.

Opportunities grow and develop with time, the sooner you identify them, the sooner you create space for success .

A poem written by me, describing importance of creativity and why  kids should be given an opportunity to explore.

THE SEAT OF CREATIVITY

 The blissful smile on the flawless face,

of a child so near to GOD

of thy spirits and thy beauty,

no boundaries see but bold,

 

As they not match,

to man ,not hatch

any plots or conspire

to gain the seat in heaven

they cherish no desire.

 

Thy pity on the soul of mankind,

persuaded and chasted by thy smiles ..

thy unconditional signs of affection,

maketh us realise

 

That he who sits in heaven

is eying on our crimes ,

be it guilt or mercy,

the child knows it all.

 

The eyes that wanders about

in space but casts a spell on us

make ways through all odds,

be it light or dust,

to show us omens of good and 

bad they cry ,feel sad or sneeze.

and a little hope is bestowed

when they smile its breeze

like the dew drops on the tiny leaves

in the arms of blessed trees.

 

Not a son nor a daughter

in tenderness and warmth of big hands,

be called by its name,

but a child is a child ,

who until has no name,

lest they touch the chest,

of mother earth and lift

up themselves all alone.

they be called children ,

in the entire eternity

their childhood thus claimed

the seat of creativity

You CAN Improve : By Being Your Child’s Inspiration !

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In view of the the topic mentioned above perhaps maybe some or many of us would find it rather very hard to believe in the above statement moreover it may scare some.

why ?

Because We all share the same level and space of committing mistakes as we are not born perfect and the ones who are not perfect have limited scope of becoming role models or inspires or even leaders.

And its absolutely wrong if some of us believe in the statement right above, because i think and strongly feel that to become a source of inspiration and leader one need not be perfect, one should always have that space to commit an error and then working over it to improve.

Life is too long to live and there are plenty of situations and contexts where one can err , and its not that if one happens to do an error one cannot be the leader but it becomes difficult to work over such roles if after mistakes one tries to defend it by making a lot of excuses in a rush or even forgetting to care about the same.  this may take a larger picture even because when the mistake was absorbed by a large number of people around you, and by chance there was nothing you did at that time to amend or improve it, then for sure your impression may not be good on them.

Its a routine that people have short memory when it comes to recollecting about a person,  the negative memories flood over the positive ones and they create a much larger picture of the whole personality that creates an overall disapproval for him/her. And therefore even on working hard, having great potential and skills some people cannot become leaders or great role models.

One thing Can be done to overcome mistakes is to refresh people’s memory by immediately following up the mistake by making apologies to save your impressions forever in the memories of people who can remember about you as the person who is visibly a good man/woman, noble, humble, honest, and mature to accept his/ her mistake and apologize or improve it having the courage to do so in front of everyone.

This Gesture is immensely approved and seen as mark of respect and honor, everyone appreciates this kind of behavior .

Its not that difficult to do so because every action has its repercussion and it may seem that in times today it is foolish to admit mistakes in front of so many people be it work or home, it seriously puts a badge over that person who may seem to be a bundle of mistakes and errors .

But if you have the sheer courage to accept it and learn the lesson from it and pass that lesson to others would make a significant  difference and this is the key point to let others learn .

The best way to become an inspiration for self and others is to begin at home where often parents commit a variety of mistakes in front of their kids, like simple things we do, forgetting to take them for outing or smoking even after promising them to quit . Kids are great observers they observe every action the elders do and being honest and sincere with them is the best way one can enrich their good traits and solidify them so that it becomes a practice and follows you as your integral part of Integrity .

The simplest and sweetest way to improve is be transparent with your kids and become their source of Inspiration and not only that even their Role Model .