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No Replacement for “Maa”

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For a couple of months i have focused a lot of attention to some posts i read on Facebook and other social media sites that cite requirement for, a full time care giver or a baby sitter for mother’s and working parents .
They ask for their babies ranging in the age group of as little as 4 months old up to 18 months and older than this can be kept in day care center or creches.images

The growing need for extra income , more comfort and putting education to use in order to feel liberated and satisfying our own self, ego and identity has lead to this whole situation  where the ones who actually suffer in all this are the babies.

“Those eyes that keep longing to see their mother, those arms that constantly reach out in vain to grab and hold on to their mothers chest. Those continuous hand and leg movements that continously fight to reach to their mother. The movement of the mouth with lips and tongue that long to kiss and suck onto their mothers breast .
Those cries and yells for mother to come back go in vain”.

As if no body understands them but who are we lying to here we do understand very clearly that baby needs mother and nothing more than his very own mother that bore him inside her for 9 months and he can’t recognize anyone other than her mother where has she gone ?

My heart ached as i again go through the above description, why the little souls have to suffer so much just because they cannot speak or say no or that they can easily forget the pain of l their longing and suffering of the day and forget everything the moment they see their mother.

Why ?

Necessity is one thing that i can understand for anything other than that doesn’t go through my head every explanation is an excuse in front of the child that keeps longing and waiting to see her mother.

For no other person than his/her own mother can provide anything .
Actually there’s no replacement for a thing called maa.
The newborns and some months old babies cannot even speak and god forbid if anything happens to them at the hands of the person you leave them to in care of can one forgive themselves in such conditions.

Am shocked and aghast to see how can people trust for their precious ones. We keep money and gold in utmost safe places, be it best banks or best brand safes and lockers.

And when we need a care giver or an Aaya for baby there’s no brand or best for that. More over we blindly give in with our trust in few minutes of meeting that person because time is running out and we need to get back to work soon.

I personally think when we can already have a decent life in the income of one person that can be any one mother or father then what is the need for the other one to work for.

The point is why should the child suffer or let me put it this way why should you miss the golden years of your baby who is just beginning to bloom and grow and learn and experience new things of life.

No amount of money property or your own liberation can measure up to the amount of pain your baby goes through by just not seeing you around him.

For job and money can have their own time when she or he begins for school or is some years old to be able to put to use some life skills .

Babies and kids who cannot express themselves are very vulnerable beings, don’t  let them to care of a person you haven’t spent some years with. It is important to learn human psychology people are great actors they are different in front of you and completely different in your absence.

You just can’t trust nor leave him with her alone . that’s it !

And even if a child is sble to speak but can’t  express just because he was warned scared and scarred for not letting out that secret .

What can one do?

Simple “IF THERE’S NO NEED THEN DON’T LEAVE YOUR BABY”

Am equally sorry and angry at the condition of today’s world where parents willingly leave their small wonders for everything small in this world.

If you feel bad after reading my post apologies to you but i just can’t see babies crying for their mothers .
It literally tears my heart when i see their teary eyes longing for their mothers. It is worst thing to see a baby crying all day for his mom.

To sit back home and becoming a full time mom is a thing am proud of i don’t need a shit job to liberate myself or create my identity.
I am enlightened enough to appreciate life and the life i have created and lives that surround me by being happy from within.

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Motivation is lesser than NEED !

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Another article i read today is about “Motivation alone can make you successful ”

I dont Believe this ..

I believe that Motivation has got a lot to do about success but this alone cannot define everything i have achieved in life . I tell you why i say this because its a Universal truth that we are talking about here and how can i deny it not being true .

Very often i have arguments with my fiance , who every now and then complains that he cannot work anymore on his new venture because he has lost all motivation and drive to proceed just because a silly problem snapped off all his logic and focus .

To this, my take has always been that you need to shift your thoughts from getting driven by this word “Motivation”. this word now makes me feel uncomfortable it petrifies me that in absence of this everything will crumble . So much for the word, that it becomes just  a complete perspective of the whole situation that can no longer happen and everything stagnates . the more he says it the more i get annoyed listening to it.

Why is motivation so much important for a person to hit success ? I  see success originating from need and sheer hard work , where work alone is the major concern that you have to perform because you have to do it, out of need. I consider Motivation is muse, a more pleasurable and rich feel word that can be applied for those who have” Choice”  in their hand, the gift of looking for some other task or work by skipping the ones in which they no longer feel interested in.

I think one is able and should be able to Succeed in absence of motivation, because only the Need can help you to work even when you feel pathetic working in some situations under rude bosses or with bad colleagues, you work alone to make ends meet where you have to feed your family, support someone or yourself, in such situations motivation doesn’t really help , because it makes you depressed on finding surroundings as nonadjustable and you cannot quit having no choice.

In such circumstances when you have to work for need you tend to work alone and make things simpler and convenient in the due course of time, you adjust and get used to the situation and keep consistent with your tasks thereby bringing permanence and resilience for the work and work environment .

Having had consistency and resilience you tend to develop more fine skills and smart work abilities  that let you cope up in stress and  take pressures and still focus on the major tasks that define the path for your success and accomplishment.

Honing such necessary skills and not giving up attitude and in absence of motivation you take up challenges and become a non quitter thus leading ahead with the quality not many have which makes you unique and an achiever in every stream where there’s no option other than to succeed and win it over.