Imagination is No Cure

Every second and every moment of that second am not feeling good , I live in a state of loss , blank, depressed , sad , weak, unable to talk , eat or sleep.

I am not able to comprehend the fact that am so unable to enjoy the happiness of being married and the new life that succeeds, there’s absolutely no problem , people around me are putting good efforts to let me in and give space enough to adjust and live thoroughly.

But I feel like a culprit unable to control my emotions , tears immediately crawl down my face and spread the sadness in me and around me , where my hubby continuously tries to make me calm down even though he is tired and affected by office work , he still loves me and cares for me very much.

I feel guilty for not being able to adapt and accept my present, for am clinging to much to my family at home in Delhi and the longing continuous to grow inside me with every passing day, its just the feeling of being so far away from them that makes me burst into tears, the thought that am no longer with them makes me feel lonely and depressed.

Having been with them for the past 26 years ive never been to hostel, tuitions or any other place away from them not even the relatives or friends night out’s etc . so it makes things more difficult, located into such a different state not being able to meet or see them often makes me choke inside. Had I been located there, then at least i could have had some satisfaction that I can go or they can come to see me and life could have been all pleasant.

But what’s at hand needs to be tackled and imagination is no longer a cure for me now , as I go on thinking like there’s a park near our society I imagine my niece playing on its swings , then I imagine my mother sleeping beside me on my bed , it really makes things even more worse, the fact that am not accepting the reality is breaking me down and even not making things any good for my married life.

Am not interested in anything , I just go about the daily rituals , the daily life chores etc and not even talk or discuss anything with my hubby , it pains me and deeply saddens me when he leaves home for work in the morning , I feel guilty for he remains tensed to see me in such a state day in and day out, so my mental state is making my married life not any good.

Am unable to figure out what will I do to overcome all this mental sadness and longingness. All my wishes , desires, confidence, interests and tastes are becoming numb day after day. I don’t know where to look for help now .

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Employee Rights: Are they Functional ?

The plight of a Genuine but Not powerful Employee ..

Only Requirement Works Here !

Now when you are out of your mother’s womb and away from your parents caresses and pamper, you must fend for yourself with available help that others have to offer in such times, and many times even alone. And when you are out to survive to earn your bread if not for yourself, you may do it for those who survive because of you.

So here begins the never ending road of survival full of struggles. I can barely accept a life minus troubles at any place home, neighborhood, society, roads, parking’s  malls, whoa and even the place where you work for a reason, the place where freedom exists in the Constitution but you may not have the same freedom as an Employee and to this day am genuinely unaware of an Employee Rights be it Government or Private sector, whcih ones are finctional and whcih ones are deni.

To forecast the future in an organisation is somewhat vague, you jump with joy on getting a job but realize it, after some days that this place or work is not meant for you and if at all, it is meant then it can only be occasioned best in two situations where, “you may like the job profile,but not the working conditions, or, you may like the working conditions but not the job profile”.

It may be rare to find sync with both the aspects.

Here the most significant factor that perturbs me to write an account on behalf of my colleagues and friends, to share their helplessness and what defunct s them, as they slog , unwillingly and unattended to their own cause. Its not about “Adjustment” at all , everyone does so unless their comes a point where they either have to “Bend or Break”.

I believe there’s more than what meets the eye, employees feel devoid of rights many a times, for n number of reasons, and prominently it has been Office Politics, favoritism, non observance of employee past or present records, unhealthy competition, lack of empathy, lack of cohesiveness among team members , negative behavior on part of Bosses , managers and even Human resource persons who lack practical application of those theoretical facts they have read all this time.

The most important in all this is the role of the HR manager who have an exit interview with the person who separates form the organization should be thoroughly questioned in a empathetic manner moreover it can be conducted by the third party, it would be more transparent and unbiased. As they they can evaluate the pros and cons of the organization as well along with the employees reasons for quitting.And such reports should be escalated to the Bosses who conclude it in an unbiased way and over finding no fault of the employee should try retaining the employee in the organization by making improvements.

Moreover i should not forget to mention about the “Contracts” having ridiculous clauses in them, which should be considered by some change makers who may work for creating better employee conditions to do away with unjustifiable clauses that may harm an employees legitimate rights as per constitutional rights.

Here i cannot refrain myself from putting a similar situation, justifiably in view of above mentioned reasons, which happened some time back : when i was taken by shocked, not at all intimated, never applied for and not even a single ground being mentioned as to why or for what reason i were transferred and felt disheartened and disoriented, as i had to give up on my kids with whom i had shared a bond that was about to go on for many more years to come and believed that i have been with these kids, taught them, loved them and shared the world with them, i got transferred to some other school. Am not happy with the system that does not realize the value of this nurtured and hard earned relationship of kids, a teacher secures, the rapport she shares, is hard to contrive. One doesn’t even come to know of their spouse in so many years, but here i had touched and nurtured 80 kids since beginning.

In the same way i can relate this  “officeisms” where my fiance was Overburdened and many a times taken away the responsibility he had in his previous job. the people who are up in the hierarchy at workplace hold power positions, and distinguish themselves in signatures that work for them. they actually work as per requirement, fitting the blocks in the board is what they care about, not to think beyond “Fitting” and “Requirement”.

Its a Pandora’s box, and none is keen to open this, the above situation is a fragment of the major portion of  problems that surrounds the system and structure in offices,

The problem becomes more insignificant when people do not stand for injustice nor complain, because employment is a need, and this need becomes helplessness and people take advantage of such helplessness where they keep throwing the pandemonium for employees in offices.

I hope that the system in every organisation changes for good, where there are rules books are followed and the employee rights are mentioned, through government policies which help the private and public sector employees to eliminate their helplessness and can work for choice and will.

Explore: Your Creative Best !

 

Nurture creativity among you and the young ones, to reap the fruits of success

 

Its really hard to find what is best in us because there are so many opportunities that we may get to work for in life and many that we dont even know about their existence. In such events it becomes necessary to experience as many thin gs in life so that we may get to know and see what we are best in doing.

I may not know if i were good in gymnastics or ballet dance or playing piano or a guitar, because  i did not get the opportunity to try and experience them so far.

And this is why i feel that every child during his/her childhood should be given ample scope to try each and every sports , creative activities, technology, spirituality, and many other fores of life where if it is possible for parents they should try every endeavor to let their kids discover their true talents and where their creativity holds.

There might be many reasons where some kids may not be able to get such opportunities to explore their creative potentials in such circumstances the best thing you can give a child is “freedom”of, choice where he /she can choose the activity , hobby, interest that they like the most doing . This will nurture self reliance and confidence among them for even getting a choice, where they can transform their habit, interests into their passion and lead to innovation or developing their creative best talent.

For Kids it is as much important as academics and care for their development. But there is no age bar when it comes to finding your best even adults can discover their true talents at any stage of their life and try to maximize acquiring and benefiting from the opportunities galore that is there today to try their hands on every skill set through finding needful time on weekends and holidays.

Opportunities grow and develop with time, the sooner you identify them, the sooner you create space for success .

A poem written by me, describing importance of creativity and why  kids should be given an opportunity to explore.

THE SEAT OF CREATIVITY

 The blissful smile on the flawless face,

of a child so near to GOD

of thy spirits and thy beauty,

no boundaries see but bold,

 

As they not match,

to man ,not hatch

any plots or conspire

to gain the seat in heaven

they cherish no desire.

 

Thy pity on the soul of mankind,

persuaded and chasted by thy smiles ..

thy unconditional signs of affection,

maketh us realise

 

That he who sits in heaven

is eying on our crimes ,

be it guilt or mercy,

the child knows it all.

 

The eyes that wanders about

in space but casts a spell on us

make ways through all odds,

be it light or dust,

to show us omens of good and 

bad they cry ,feel sad or sneeze.

and a little hope is bestowed

when they smile its breeze

like the dew drops on the tiny leaves

in the arms of blessed trees.

 

Not a son nor a daughter

in tenderness and warmth of big hands,

be called by its name,

but a child is a child ,

who until has no name,

lest they touch the chest,

of mother earth and lift

up themselves all alone.

they be called children ,

in the entire eternity

their childhood thus claimed

the seat of creativity

Revolution Begins with Small Wonders !

My Classroom Kids

 A general sense of thoughts that accommodate certain feelings and ultimately embellishes my thoughts for an emotional upheaval that thrives inside out only to instigate a revolutionary cause .

The forte of my present situation dwells upon my past and has a great bearing on my present life.

I can casually revert back to my school days, as I remember for once raising my hand among so many students on being asked the question,

“who wants to be a teacher” ?

I knew, it wasn’t certain at that time and was just a passing thought that saw its way out in a fragment of time. And I was somewhat embarrassed too having raised my hand all alone when i looked to my right and left and back altogether. Gosh ! That passed.

But, when the time came to opt a course and career, god was so gracious to supply me with the best of choices to decide. Its a noble thing altogether that he who sits in heaven has given this wonderful gift of choice, and so i made it, to be a teacher and pursued my training for the same.

Sometimes i reflect upon the notion that now am to be in the league of the one’s who shape the future of our nation which will culminate in its classrooms. But i still couldn’t believe that what i am doing will create a mark or not and will it change my attitude towards this field or not .

Being part of today’s Generation i doubted about this as much as you would, in a world where there’s so much professionalism and corporate life exuberance that attracts and hugs it every time one has no other alternative but to think and contradict, and at the same time i thought that teaching profession, was sure infallible in words and praises, but hardly influences the generation today due to small incentives and lacks glamour quotient.

All this was past, when i became part of this profession and entered the threshold of the classrooms with “buzzing sounds, unconditioned smiles, silly giggles, dreamy eyes, sleepy lips, clutching hands, open fingers, and beautiful voice, where the eyes follow to approach and hold someone in nearby surroundings.

All this made my insolent perceptions fall irrelevant in view of my vicarious experience with these, thought before, but unimaginable moments of complete unselfish love coming straight from God’s heart. Id be a fool to let go of this moment and should cling on to it, as much, to get this love and give the same to those who will cherish it all time.

And believe me am glad i chose it and became part of this profession now Am the Katrina Kaif, Aishwarya Rai, and Kareena Kapoor of my kids , they love me and i have never found such unconditional love before, i love teaching and training them for life and being as much with them as i can, guiding them, partying with them, eating with them, playing with them, joking with them, and sharing their dreams and aspirations is just awesome feeling out of this world.

Every child i see is full of innocence fluttering with wings every now and then just to break free from those four apathetic walls which suffocate their freedom, though seeming meaningful for others but for them its as much a crime unforgivable and their world inconsolable .The schools are devoid of many facilities but its not deprived of teachers who can fulfill for almost everything that’s missing, moreover the utmost need of love, care and guidance by holding hands with the kids and make them happy before teaching.

As i reflect more i think there’s much more missing, something that can help these kids even more in life. And i think what could it be,the more i pondered over i thought that quality and fruitful education and activities can let them explore the opportunities to make it to higher classes or schools even on behalf of those kids who could not make it even this far for primary education.

A system of education that is lead by heart and soul by the teachers who nurture all round development of the kids and let them cherish life of self reliance and getting active for their rights and even for those who are around them.

This world is ever growing and demanding its needs every hour that our children should carry their innocence on the chest of conscience that equips them with the armory of sustainability of all kinds, for every situation and not become a prey due to absence of basic education.

All these thoughts accommodate for one cause, that, the teacher is the person who can make all the difference by giving a fragment of his/her life for these small wonder’s who are not left alone to fend for themselves but to achieve and realize their dreams.

You CAN Improve : By Being Your Child’s Inspiration !

In view of the the topic mentioned above perhaps maybe some or many of us would find it rather very hard to believe in the above statement moreover it may scare some.

why ?

Because We all share the same level and space of committing mistakes as we are not born perfect and the ones who are not perfect have limited scope of becoming role models or inspires or even leaders.

And its absolutely wrong if some of us believe in the statement right above, because i think and strongly feel that to become a source of inspiration and leader one need not be perfect, one should always have that space to commit an error and then working over it to improve.

Life is too long to live and there are plenty of situations and contexts where one can err , and its not that if one happens to do an error one cannot be the leader but it becomes difficult to work over such roles if after mistakes one tries to defend it by making a lot of excuses in a rush or even forgetting to care about the same.  this may take a larger picture even because when the mistake was absorbed by a large number of people around you, and by chance there was nothing you did at that time to amend or improve it, then for sure your impression may not be good on them.

Its a routine that people have short memory when it comes to recollecting about a person,  the negative memories flood over the positive ones and they create a much larger picture of the whole personality that creates an overall disapproval for him/her. And therefore even on working hard, having great potential and skills some people cannot become leaders or great role models.

One thing Can be done to overcome mistakes is to refresh people’s memory by immediately following up the mistake by making apologies to save your impressions forever in the memories of people who can remember about you as the person who is visibly a good man/woman, noble, humble, honest, and mature to accept his/ her mistake and apologize or improve it having the courage to do so in front of everyone.

This Gesture is immensely approved and seen as mark of respect and honor, everyone appreciates this kind of behavior .

Its not that difficult to do so because every action has its repercussion and it may seem that in times today it is foolish to admit mistakes in front of so many people be it work or home, it seriously puts a badge over that person who may seem to be a bundle of mistakes and errors .

But if you have the sheer courage to accept it and learn the lesson from it and pass that lesson to others would make a significant  difference and this is the key point to let others learn .

The best way to become an inspiration for self and others is to begin at home where often parents commit a variety of mistakes in front of their kids, like simple things we do, forgetting to take them for outing or smoking even after promising them to quit . Kids are great observers they observe every action the elders do and being honest and sincere with them is the best way one can enrich their good traits and solidify them so that it becomes a practice and follows you as your integral part of Integrity .

The simplest and sweetest way to improve is be transparent with your kids and become their source of Inspiration and not only that even their Role Model .