Happiness

Our Mind (psyche )is very naughty, it plays with us, it wanders , it goes from here to there, from home to office, from office to places and keeps wandering , jumping here, there and everywhere. It is never still, it was never meant to be still,it was always like that, going around and coming around like a swing , it has its high’s and low’s .

It is never stable it is always in motion and so we are left in motion, moving with the flow of the mind, that carries our body with it, wherever it takes we go along, unknowing what it has to offer but we still go because after all its our mind that tells us and that controls us. we cannot do anything nor we can question what it wants or why it wants something, a thing even it sees that passes by like a new phone , a new car, or a new dress, it screams in our mind that YOU MUST HAVE IT , Why Not Own it !

We think we want it, so we begin to desire it, and finally it is our mind that tells us, we require it, but actually we don’t, we never realize its irrelevance until we have it, after a long struggle of pain tension, longing and forgoing almost every small and big happiness, for this particular thing,because we were waiting to be happy only the day we have it, that we always thought could make us really happy.

And so we begin to neglect everything in pursuit of this material that we never wanted since the beginning, but our mind said something, about its need, so we went after it, and all these days, months and years we wasted in getting that thing. And now we are used to the art of getting after things, living only for the big moments, small things no longer or never actually made us happy, even attempts by people around us to make happy shall go in vain, which is why people no longer matter to us. 

None of the relations make us happy, because we see in them our own reflection , as if they are also after something , something much greater than my own thing, as soon as we think this they become our competitors and thus they no longer remain close to us, they are our enemies , they are now part of the great competition. 

Slowly and Slowly life becomes more void, because now the mind craves even more, once you hold the thing you always wanted since years you move onto next , the value of this thing becomes Zero from the time you seize it . just think about this, for a moment, it doesn’t even matter now, how long can you enjoy it after all.

Again your mind sees a thing and starts wandering no longer the thing you got makes you happy , you remain more sad and more anxious and more worrying about your next goals, your next agenda’s or next thing you want to own, that you think would be ultimate source of happiness. 

It hardly happens because since the beginning you were not happy and the moment you saw that thing made you more unhappy and the pursuit , the journey made you even more unhappy inside, and now you are conditioned to remain unhappy for long, now nothing can be done to make you happy , even this thing you just bought after so many years of hard work fails to make you happy. 

You were always anxious, wandering and roaming around here and there , your mind was never still. had it been so it would just have been like the observer who sees the most awesome st of things in life but is hardly affected by them, nothing changes inside him, not even a nerve or a blink of eye . He remains the same goes on doing what he is doing, and is least moved by what he sees around. 

And the one who sees around but never gets involved with it, in his mind is the most happiest soul ever.

Written By 

SHILPI CHAUHAN SINHA

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Mother : How You Manage Your’s and Self

It doesn’t matter where satisfaction, pleasure and spirituality comes from, by doing anything that gives you inner peace and a reflection into the thoughts that make you do good and create good for self or the others is the best thing in the world.

Be it anything from cleaning the floor , digging hands into cow dung, writing a blog, listening songs, dancing , cooking, babbling with a baby or just  looking at the coconut trees.

Whatever can be done in free time that creates peace is something worth considering , not everyone will or can observe that when you do anything like the above or other than that you actually have the courage and ability to be on the right track, not interfering or troubling the others in order to keep you good , you yourself have the innate capacity to manage yourself and your peace.

Isn’t it a blessing and the greatest courage for all the housewife’s who do it and have the greatest capacity to look after them and their loved ones not bothering them even if they feel empty a lot of times , its just them and their world that they can create with their child , kitchen, home and everything that’s there in it.

Salute to the courage our mother’s have who have been running their household and office as well. It couldn’t have been without their strength and support that our fathers work peacefully and we get the greatest food everyday.

And am just new to all these experiences but i have the ability to recognize and reflect upon this greatest truths that i have unraveled that how my mother could manage so much and not only home but managing Herself as well that’s really a tough thing to do when you live all alone all day.

What’s Cooking in my Kitchen !

Chocolate Sponge Cake

Now i have all the time in the world and every minute and every second i cannot let it just pass thinking what to do , rather i need and explore more of what all i can do.

Cooking comes to me very easy, i was 7 when i made my first tea at home and then went on with rolling out chapatis of all shapes and vegetables of different sizes going into the pan. Hence i just couldn’t stop myself now that i have a kitchen of my own and none can interfere me when i cook , what i cook or how should i cook.

All to me and myself i tried my hands on baking a cake for my hubby so i tried and the first attempt was wrong except the batter was good the baking was bad, just because i was following a Recipe from the Internet, and when you are doing it first time , you need to follow everything that’s said so i did followed the recipe and it said bake the cake for 45 minutes so i baked not knowing and naive to the difference an OTG and Microwave share.

So being naive on how should they be used my sponge just changed to biscuit within minutes, oh and that was my first attempt, nevertheless i again rolled up my sleeves and the next day i made this delicious soft chocolate sponge cake cut out into pieces, which you can see in the picture to the right.

 

 

 

 

 

 

This gave me some motivation to try out more, to stretch myself and explore some more things that i haven’t tried before like
punjabi chole bhature, the picture below of Chole , trust me i made them all spicy and chatpata and my hubby liked it so much that he ate it all.

Chola i made from kabuli chana , masala (spices) , veggies and all, that went all fine and superb in taste. But the real problem came in making the bhatura, that were really hard job but still the first time is not always easy still i think next time i am aware of what all mistakes to avoid in my preparations .

 

 

 

 

 

And then yesterday night i baked this vanilla choconut sponge cake as my dearest hubby was feeling sick and wanted to eat something sweet dessert that would make him feel nice and better, so i made this very scrumptious cake for him and actually it was the third time i was baking , it was super duper hit.  he loved it so much.

It all gave me a sense of spirituality where i did not had a hand blender nor a hand tool to beat the eggs or make the batter but all i did it was with my hands that really made it super nice and tasty.

Really the way to mans heart is through his stomach…

Something Out Of Nothing

This is the craft work i do in my free time, since my new accommodation is quite spacious and colorful still there are a lot of empty walls, floors and tables, without any antiques over them and since i cannot afford to splurge over decorative items from shops ,so i tried my own way of using hand made paper, plastic bottles, ice cream cup and paper plates to convert the house into a much softer home .

here’s some of them its just an attempt ..

I hope to create some more items like these, since my scissor had broken as soon ill buy a new one i will restart decorating my home as its my favorite work and gives me peace and enrichment towards using my free time wisely .

Reset Your Factory Settings to “Yes”

Today how often do you hear” YES” whenever you or anyone asked for some help or some work ?

It may puzzle you to think about the above statement, but seriously isn’t the word “YES” heard very rarely today  in office or among your friends and family .

Its true indeed , a lot of thoughts flood our mind soon after someone asks us for a favor  to resolve an issue, to take up some task, to volunteer for some work, to assist in some activity, do an extra piece of work, or just anything, we are full of fear and feel so heavy, burdened , stressed and fixed in a dilemma what to say a Yes or a No..

What happens then is that we simply say a No where we could have chosen a YES to do or perform some thing that could have  had new learning opportunities for us or even bring us goodness by doing something for the others and make us feel great.

But In any case…

“The word ‘NO’ has some FUN element attached to it That ‘YES’ can never have“, which is why we so much love to use it and so often, really for instance one of my acquaintances has this massive potential of saying No to everything that comes to her minute after minute and  it  surprises me so much, as how can anyone be so lazy or i should say so mean

I asked her,

“why do you say No to everything yaar at least you can do one thing in a day” ?

To this she conveniently replies..

” dear, No saves me from extra work and why should i say yes when i can say No easily and no one has a problem with it”

Hmmmm smart enough but is it right to say No so frequently and where does it take you or this world , Imagine where you approach anyone for help and all you get to hear is NO, NO, NO from everyone . Isn’t it a sorry state a world full of inhuman’s .

To unlearn this word No, think about why are we so afraid of this Yes because its full of responsibility and needs you to go that extra mile for someone always. the Best way to counter is to focus on the brighter side of  Yes,that carries a lot shining traits it like responsibility, credibility,sensibility, trust, respect, virtue, wisdom, maturity, decency, humility and many more, whereas,

‘No’, carries lightness, freedom, carefree, relaxed, unburdened etc feelings.

But there is more to this No, where many of us who blindly or even bluntly reject a plea or request by someone who approaches us for something with some work or for help we tend to make excuse or just flatly say the word, and feel relaxed that we are smart or made a great escape, but actually we lost a good opportunity to create a mark in the lives of others and mostly ourselves, where it could contribute to our own growth and many a times sincere people may even feel guilty for not having helped someone and may lose on a goodnight sleep.

In view of the above many should think, about saying YES as a positive influence in their life that entails the provision of nurturing so many more positive traits . But things dont end here in religiously following this Yes, there’s a way to practice it and apply it for the betterment of self and others as well.

Thereby some discouraging factors that follow Yes are there, where one may be subjected to unscrupulous tasks being loaded over them at workplaces or among the peers,and no doubt its true because our society makes indiscriminate use of those who say Yes and label them as fools forever, who does all the work and can be given more as he/she may never use the word NO.

The bottom line here is to make Best use of Yes so that it doesn’t discourage or depreciates your value or identity in any way and helps in facilitating your positive personality growth and inner peace that contributes to your spiritual, physical and mental well being.

If you find that a particular situation of person is indefinitely using your abilities and taking advantage of your approvals then you can pleasantly say No, it doesn’t harm you or the other as they will get their work done if not from you than any other one for sure.

The Yes word is not something to feel pressurized about rather its a very Humane and magnanimous way of presenting yourself among others that makes you unique and stand out . So just Click on the Button Yes and reset your life to the old self you were always like a kid   who embraces Yes every time be it dark or sunshine.