Complaints are vain
When life is uncertain
You don’t see if it all exists
You don’t know if it all would cease
Only what happens now is alive
Everything else is deep and blind
Not visible to open eyes
Or far beyond the mind
Thoughts grow with time
Believing on all that’s divine
There’s no escape to life
From living perhaps this life
Existence matters when you see
A life in life that’s free.
We are Humans with bodies, that breathe to live and do all other life like activities that combine together to form and enrich our existence with experiences that are embellished with a variety of emotions like joy,happiness, pain, sorrow, love, hate etc.
The emotions decorate our moments namely into two distinct portions of Positive Or Negative experiences of which we largely hold onto remembering them or segregating them into much more variants of emotional experiences of our lives.
I believe to experience anything in life we need to be alive and live in the moment, which means to Exist , to see it to believe it , for this we require our bodies,to experience,record and register those moments and then to re frame them and label them with emotions that we have during those moments .
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Here it is very important to acknowledge the fact that in order to experience and feel certain emotions of some moments we require our bodies , if we have no body which is alive then how can we experience anything at all .
And with this belief i cannot believe in the Concept of Heaven and Hell after Death which many of religions tell us about, because to experience the angels and life of heaven we still require senses that are trapped only inside a living body, and even to experience the hot fire of hell we still require to have a body which feels pain upon being pricked by the devils of hell.
So We require a body to experience Heaven and Hell after death !
Actually the whole concept is very confusing because when we live we have a body and so we experience everything but as soon as we die we lose this body thus losing our senses to experience anything which is around us.
Death is Emptiness , its complete Shunyata (zero) after life, there is nothing to experience nor to feel , forget Heaven or even hell , there is nothing to make us happy or sad, there isn’t a body to feel anything. What is gone is gone forever , its just the soul that circulates around like a dust particle only in search of a body to enter and get back to life again.
And it happens automatically not even the soul is in search it happens by itself , because there has been no longing or desire to relieve its just a process that has to be completed by its own.
As long as we live we are are full of experience , the day we die we are just nothingness.
Oh Gosh am so tired of being asked this question so many times, its been only 6 month or so since i got married and there isn’t any one being who hasn’t asked me the million dollar question, Good News kab suna rahi hai, or good news kab degi ? ( when will you tell us about the good news or when are you going to give good news ) .
Am literally sick of the questions that make me feel that am guilty of not planning a baby or that we were using protection or just not wanting to have it right now, which is seriously not the case.
Why do people have to ask such things i can expect it from my relatives or family but why should my friends ask this, this totally unexpected from them .
Am always in favor of responding to people in a very polite and genuine way that we are ready to have a baby whenever it would happen by god’s will, when it has to happen, its not in my hands actually they must know.
Then why is everybody after me, i can really not understand, its like am the one who is responsible for not giving them the good news because they want to hear it .
More over if this doesn’t suffice, they ask me all sorts of questions that you must plan , have ,and consult gynecologist and so on , yes yes we will do that only if we see that, we have crossed our time or that its been 2 years of our marriage and still we haven’t have a baby , our marriage just got into 7th month and people are drooling over me like flies and it started in 2nd month only !
I don’t know why is everyone so worried even my good old “Educated” , “Modern” friends ask me this every time they call , and its making me become more patient, dealing with their queries, i keep giving them all sorts of answers thinking that one day they might stop asking , but no they are still going on pretty smooth.
I am just married and enjoying every bit of this moment and am even ready to get pregnant and be a mother, and am all prepared and geared up for whatever has to come to my life , But Let It Come , Let it Happen All by itself , why force it or pressurize it to happen.
This is the problem with our society even before you are born , problems exist in form of whether you arrive late or early and then when you arrive, problems related to gender, month, time and date in which you were born, after that if you are a boy what will you become engineer , doctor etc,
And god forbid if you are born a girl , your life, education, society, marriage, dowry, rape , everything related to your existence becomes the bone of contention for whole life .
Anyhow am not going away from my topic. I cannot understand why there’s so much fuss about the “good news”, its like people who ask me this, their life depends on my having a baby as if some thing good will only occur to them if i have a baby, and all this time they are expecting on my behalf !!!
When will they understand and let me be with my present, and let god decide everything rather than playing little God’s themselves. A baby is blessing of god who brings happiness that’s there to stay forever and that only happens when your time has come and when god decides for it to happen.
What Nostradamus Says Will happen Next ..man shall become a man-eater !
And that day is not too far, as we all see and witness the truth where the skies wont fall nor the earth will tear apart to end the mankind . But the mankind alone will be victim of their own vice and evil that would end their existence forever.
In the wake of so many unfolding events that have shaped the face of this earth that looks more cruel and devilish, there is hardly any hopes left for other generations.
We have progressed remarkably in terms of technological growth and made our lives utmost pleasant be it homes or at workplace, with the spurt of information and technological advancement in every forte is believable in fact, but the truth remains unseen, that we have forgot to change our mindset which still hasn’t progressed much.
Still many sections of our society and many people at individual level have not embraced the newness as for them being progressive and following the revolution is still a distant concept, which they do not wish to live or realize.
This happens because on one hand there is a section of people who are in the mainstream, running, progressing and moving up the ladder of change and live an enriching life with global experiences, while on the other hand we have a section of people who are trapped in their own thoughts, contemplating their own ideas and crave to match those with the ones who are in the mainstream .
The people who are either forced to step back or who choose to live this way tend to find themselves a midst happening things which they are not able to comprehend or cope with, in such situations they feel stifled as soon they realize that how far behind they are left in the mad race, and as soon they come to terms with this reality they try hard to make things even for them.
Some people who are kind enough follow the nice route like working hard, or doing more struggles or starting things with a scratch to reach or match to, and for the others its a mad race to win and they find the ugliest route possible to match or reach up, to feel that they are no less than those they envy .
Now the behavioral actions that these people take up is beyond extreme and in some cases shall be termed as inhuman as they turn to harm those people with whom they envy or wish to even up and no other way can they see lest to end the competition than the race itself, no more they shall have to worry about follow ups or running anymore and this is how they end things and win it over.
The world still does not wait or stop to see where things go bad or why do they actually happen the way it shouldn’t have been, but then we all think alike that unless it happens to us we are least bothered about escalating the issue and even if we think about it at the ground level by doing some basic research that it was all the work of a mad man’s unfulfilled desires, we learn to tolerate and become patient with it with time, because there is law, there is a system and there is humanity that we follow being Educated Reformists.
Do we ever think that, we need to look into the human mind, the people on streets the people whom we left behind, so that they do not come in front of us, all of a sudden to question or answer it with a kill, we must reflect into their psychology before the world ends for us or they end the world for us.
The atrocious killings of humans during war, hate crimes, massacres ,mass shooting, rapes, physical or mental torture, brutality meted out to innocent people and all this is happening even right now during this moment while i write this blog . This world is on the brink of collapsing where there would be no space for the people to run or cherish anymore, for there is so much of evil taking rounds and people are day by day becoming more individualistic, practical, selfish , self centered and running .
Its time we should see what we do and turn the pages of other people’s lives because criminals or people who hate us are among ourselves and we must identify and help them to help avert such fateful events that have already happened in past and quite recently. its time we should acknowledge that technology alone cannot help us to live in peace and survive rather the humans are capable enough to help survive and live in peace .
We can do without progress, revolution, technology and other things that make our life great in times today, but we cannot do without peace and ability to survive, we are constantly living in the age where our survival is under threat.
materialistic life
No person or object can define your life, its up to you if you make them your life or your life is your own.
It is not about people and objects in life that can make you happy , its always about the things beyond these two, that helps you build your goals. A human being can never find inner peace and happiness in objects and people, it never comes or goes along with us. the more we learn to depend and depend to learn from these the more vicious it becomes, and hard to break free.
the objectives of ones life should be conscious chosen and accepted and made part of everyday living , its not a thing of a day or a two. it needs to be practiced and believed to be followed religiously. The mistake happens when our life goes around a person and comes back on searching for some other person on whom we can depend and accommodates our existence. similarly happens with the objects that goes apart and another becomes a part.
To break this one needs to look beyond people and objects as the measure for their existence , to make self realizing goal, that originate within and functions only with your self in completeness of your soul and body alone. the more we seek some important and concrete goals as these we will find that the journey in pursuit of such goals will be highly self realizing and a conscious effort from your own to be happy and consistent with your own life. a self fulfilling and self enlightening path for your life is best when its not dependent on anyone or anything.
Nurture creativity among you and the young ones, to reap the fruits of success
Its really hard to find what is best in us because there are so many opportunities that we may get to work for in life and many that we dont even know about their existence. In such events it becomes necessary to experience as many thin gs in life so that we may get to know and see what we are best in doing.
I may not know if i were good in gymnastics or ballet dance or playing piano or a guitar, because i did not get the opportunity to try and experience them so far.
And this is why i feel that every child during his/her childhood should be given ample scope to try each and every sports , creative activities, technology, spirituality, and many other fores of life where if it is possible for parents they should try every endeavor to let their kids discover their true talents and where their creativity holds.
There might be many reasons where some kids may not be able to get such opportunities to explore their creative potentials in such circumstances the best thing you can give a child is “freedom”of, choice where he /she can choose the activity , hobby, interest that they like the most doing . This will nurture self reliance and confidence among them for even getting a choice, where they can transform their habit, interests into their passion and lead to innovation or developing their creative best talent.
For Kids it is as much important as academics and care for their development. But there is no age bar when it comes to finding your best even adults can discover their true talents at any stage of their life and try to maximize acquiring and benefiting from the opportunities galore that is there today to try their hands on every skill set through finding needful time on weekends and holidays.
Opportunities grow and develop with time, the sooner you identify them, the sooner you create space for success .
A poem written by me, describing importance of creativity and why kids should be given an opportunity to explore.
THE SEAT OF CREATIVITY
The blissful smile on the flawless face,
of a child so near to GOD
of thy spirits and thy beauty,
no boundaries see but bold,
As they not match,
to man ,not hatch
any plots or conspire
to gain the seat in heaven
they cherish no desire.
Thy pity on the soul of mankind,
persuaded and chasted by thy smiles ..
thy unconditional signs of affection,
maketh us realise
That he who sits in heaven
is eying on our crimes ,
be it guilt or mercy,
the child knows it all.
The eyes that wanders about
in space but casts a spell on us
make ways through all odds,
be it light or dust,
to show us omens of good and
bad they cry ,feel sad or sneeze.
and a little hope is bestowed
when they smile its breeze
like the dew drops on the tiny leaves
in the arms of blessed trees.
Not a son nor a daughter
in tenderness and warmth of big hands,
be called by its name,
but a child is a child ,
who until has no name,
lest they touch the chest,
of mother earth and lift
up themselves all alone.
they be called children ,
in the entire eternity
their childhood thus claimed
the seat of creativity
Power of Self Control where nothing Distracts, Influences or calls Attention of the Enlightened Gautam Buddha.
Just look at this wonderful Picture of the Great Gautam Buddha sitting under the Bodhi tree deeply meditating, where nothing almost nothing in the world has the power enough to distract him, be it the beauty or the beast. There’s nothing that can disturb his peace with his innermost self , break his meditation and destroy his Conscious state of Enlightenment.
No doubt its almost unbelievable to achieve that state of Consciousness as its very tough and even harder in times today where there is complete struggle to earn your bread and butter after which there is a mad rush to fulfill those endless pursuits of success, praise, fame and most importantly good money. In a nutshell its the materialistic world that attracts us, as its said “Evil is attractive” that shifts us away from going after more simpler and spiritual life experiences.
Its unbelievable to attain such enlightenment and peace, but its not Impossible too , it would be a great achievement if we are able to attain even a fragment of this inner consciousness through Meditation that leads to Self control and an Enlightened soul within us.
The road to Self Control is through Regular practice of Meditation, that one can do every day for around 15 to 20 minutes, where you sit in a quiet place anywhere in your room, porch, garden, park or any place you feel you can be with your self alone for a brief time period. I can also understand that you may be running in the morning for office, work or house chores but you must find time for your own self , to heal your mind, body and spirit in a true sense .
And if you are able to make enough space for yourself in a day then the next ordeal is to filter your thoughts, where daily errands may be jumping, running, disturbing and buzzing in your mind where you think after this, i have to check mail, cook meal, dress the kids, go to the gym, complete office work and much much more, it doesn’t stop even if you close your eyes from the outside world and think now it is disconnected , its actually not, the thoughts are still there in you and this is where you have to work upon to get rid of those thoughts.
Just believe that this time is for you, your peace your connection with your self , you have this appointment specially with you and nothing or no one is as important today other than you.
When you Close these Eyes, it means you close yourself from this world outside and do not let thoughts related to world outside bother you, am not saying be thoughtless as the mind can never be without thoughts rather concentrate on your breathing , where you inhale and exhale, and observe your thoughts if any and one by one let go of them as they eat up your energy and willingness to concentrate . but in case if they still persist then chant a mantra like “Om Namah Shivaya” as the mantra saves you from other thoughts that deplete your energy.
OM NAMAH SHIVAYA
As you practice you may gradually see that the distracting thoughts will subside and only the breathing that you do or the mantra that you chant exists and all other things cease to happen, then is the state where you experience a complete feeling of bliss and contentment. Stay in that state for a while and experience the peace and relaxation of that mental state.
Though this is the first time for many, but it surely is powerful enough to bring you back again as you cherish peace and inner happiness of all day long. And it can be hard to sit first time,but dont force yourself , as you are doing this for yourself and not for others, so it doesn’t have to be a stressful activity. With daily practice and time you may give you will gain more power and will be able to sit for longer periods of time and even reflect more deeply in levels that you attain with time.
Meditation benefits you a lot :
Meditation helps in overall relaxation of mind where your thoughts are pure , wise and free from negativity. It also improves your will power where you refine your inner strengths and beliefs that helps you surround with positivism and goodness .
Meditation brings Self Control in a person’s life which enhances the skills to supervise and regulate the behavior where you may get a sense of power to curb immediate urge for gratification of needs, which may harm your well being or of the others around you, it helps in exercising restraint as an when needed in a well balanced way that does not affect you even when those needs are not fulfilled.
Self Control is a very important facet of life skills, one should practice, in order to maintain a healthy and peaceful life. we often get influenced by beauty, tastes, luxuries, riches, fame, money etc. and even provoked by situation or people who may insult, anger, discourage, or disturb us in some way or the other. In such events we may not be able to exercise Control over our emotions and express them which may be taken by others in a negative way.
And this is why its best to exercise self control that will only come through Meditation, it has a wide variety of positive effects in your life where you will improve your relationships, make better decisions, increase your concentration and attention span, think rationally and logically.
It will even help you to choose to be at peace, instead of being part of negative gossips, office politics, back bitching etc. It helps you to rise above all odds where you would not be disturbed by negative people or situations around you and always be Conscious of your self that will take you one level higher than others which is the ultimate goal of your existence and leads to enlightenment of the inner self.
ThoughtSummary 
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