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ManyMee: Lighting-up the other side of Moon

“If we are not able to freely share what we want to, connectivity is futile”

It is a connected world. We are all connected to each other with the help of technology. The question is why is there a need for connectivity? We want to communicate. While communicating we share. There are a lot of things we share and a lot of things we don’t. We share only the good stuff. We share the stuff that makes us superior to others or maintains status quo . “Others” are none but the people in our own little circles. I being in India will not be showing my superiority to someone is Sao Paulo. Closer the relationship, stronger is the urge to display superiority. If what we share does not raise our position, even for a few hours, we do not share. When there is nothing to share, we fabricate and share stuff that will make us superior thus what we share is hardly a true representation of our lives. Even if we share, it is a very small fraction of our lives.

Life is not about “Likes”. Not all situations in life are “likable” Life is not the same always. Times are sometimes easy and sometimes difficult. There may be situations in life that does not raise our status. These are the times when we want to – share and get our spirits lifted, receive honest and unbiased help and support, search for inspiration, have others help us get going, know that we are not alone but there are others who are in the same boat as ours. These situations may not be likable.

But in these times we do not share as the existing platforms don’t allow us to do so as they are predominated by “Like”.

In the existing social platforms, connections are mostly based on pre-existing relationships. The people who are connected to you have preconceived notion about who you are. There is a pre-existing image of everyone. You are already somebody there.  Everyone has been labelled and tagged. Our little circle feeds the so called images and keeps them alive. Status quo is maintained. Everyone remains who they are. The existing circles help maintain “status quo”. They do not help you grow. But since life is not the same always, maintaining status quo does not work and the whole setup fails.

There is a subtle tacit non-acceptance in our circles when we share about something that has changed within us as a result of occurrence of certain events in our lives or we ourselves are trying to bring about some change in ourselves. We are subconsciously aware of this non-acceptance and this gives rise to tremendous inhibitions in trying to share and show in our little circles that you are not the same person again. The presence of the very circle inhibits us from sharing.

Thus sharing is restricted and is incomplete. Sharing is being influenced by the presence of people in our little social circles. Thus we are not able to pour our heart out. The existing connectivity with our friends and acquaintances is restricting us from sharing freely. Thus connectivity is not being able to deliver its complete value.

In order for connectivity to deliver complete value, we have created ManyMee. At ManyMee we may also share stuff that are not likable or stuff we hesitate to share. ManyMee does not work against the existing platforms but complements them by making “connectivity” deliver full value. At ManyMee we are connected to everyone but to none in particular. We have also done away with the “like” icon and have introduced three new icons. At ManyMee you are free to pour your heart out as the restrictions that have been brought about by the presence of people in our little circles are not there. ManyMee does not intend to connect you people who have preconceived notions about you nor will their status, real or fake, have a controlling influence on your confidence, thus enabling you to freely open up and share being who you truly are. Once you are able to share at will, connectivity is worthwhile and we are ourselves again.

— Written by Arnab Sinha ( hubby )

Mother : How You Manage Your’s and Self

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It doesn’t matter where satisfaction, pleasure and spirituality comes from, by doing anything that gives you inner peace and a reflection into the thoughts that make you do good and create good for self or the others is the best thing in the world.

Be it anything from cleaning the floor , digging hands into cow dung, writing a blog, listening songs, dancing , cooking, babbling with a baby or just  looking at the coconut trees.

Whatever can be done in free time that creates peace is something worth considering , not everyone will or can observe that when you do anything like the above or other than that you actually have the courage and ability to be on the right track, not interfering or troubling the others in order to keep you good , you yourself have the innate capacity to manage yourself and your peace.

Isn’t it a blessing and the greatest courage for all the housewife’s who do it and have the greatest capacity to look after them and their loved ones not bothering them even if they feel empty a lot of times , its just them and their world that they can create with their child , kitchen, home and everything that’s there in it.

Salute to the courage our mother’s have who have been running their household and office as well. It couldn’t have been without their strength and support that our fathers work peacefully and we get the greatest food everyday.

And am just new to all these experiences but i have the ability to recognize and reflect upon this greatest truths that i have unraveled that how my mother could manage so much and not only home but managing Herself as well that’s really a tough thing to do when you live all alone all day.

Rebellious Hope Beyond Personalized Failure

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Every genre of life holds some kind of productive roots that need to be harnessed in order to sustain for life and better livelihood to keep cycle of life consistent. For a human, its quite unimaginable to think about a life that is absent of materialism.The pursuit of this powerful yet significant source ( money) for life is ruthless and impinges upon the life so much that without it one can barely live the act of living.

The insatiable human life that never cease’s to desire materialism, hardly has any space left for spiritual conscious growth that could pose as a great escape for some who breath their last breath of soot in misfortune as their endless failures never ended.

For some failure is the end of experiments but for me failure is a beautiful concept that reminds me of my existence, am alive and in action and that I am making full use of every breath of mine. And i never fail to happen be it for countless failures or little spells of chance success. life is as much you and i know about it with past present and future attributed around two words success or failures but we fail to see beyond these two dictionary words.

It is unexpected of any human to detach them self from the life they have today, with so much of happening around them, since childhood school to their adulthood offices, life is full of events, emotions etc. whatever has happened in the past or whatever will happen in the future, we all try to personalize them and include those events of the past to the present moment and even attach the present shaping to suit it best for the future.

In the process we stop realizing the present which is all today the very moment we live in, we care so much about the failures the mistakes the events that happened that it begin to shape our future through our present moments of pondering over the past, thinking it shouldn’t happen again in the future we keep ruining and playing with the present.

The future has innumerable opportunities that the present may not know, the lack of awareness of the future is a blessing i believe as the graph of life is never a line, its rhythmic and this is a sign that we should have rebellious hope to do our work till the end whatever be the outcome let it remain, let it hold, but never stop the action.

Failures often leave us down and disappointed and even hopeless so much that we choose to quit action or some may even quit their lives, because again the matter is how you take the failures . There can be intermittent or consistent failures in life , if you ask me, i have consistent failures that i never personalize.

Because the day you begin to personalize with the failures its the day you cease to act anymore. Be it one or endless failures it should never let you stop, rather be rebellious having hope not for success or winning but hope that you shall continue despite these failures even if it happen time and again .

To hope in misery is to be rebel, to hope life in death is rebel, Hope is an endless rebellion towards life that even failure is natural and so is the hope that should never end. Hope is just not a factor or a word if you term it like that then the failure is just a word defined for a thing, idea, or event that went wrong not the way you planned.

I believe that these terms like, failure, mistakes, devastated  depressed, death, divorce, pain, ruined etc are becoming more symbolic and full of imagery the moment you think of them whereas the positive words like being happy, love,hope, faith, never give up, belief  etc are becoming more abstract because we can barely find any of the events describing them in our imagination when we are only going through the above negative terms that heavily sits and eat up our conscious.

which is why more and more people are becoming sad and full of disappointing because the ones they seek approval from or even look up for positivism are themselves full of negativity in and around them. we actually have lost our innate capacity to harness our own energy for being positive and its hard to do that mechanical work now of rebuilding.

The more practical answer to failures is then only the rebellious hope for this you need not change your mental setup of all positive and spirituality because i know its very hard to do it, even i cannot pull myslef from thinking negative so many times but the thing i always practice is this incessant hope i keep which becomes more and more rebellious with every failure that i encounter.

It has made me hard and courageous and so much that am least affected by life, am more able to enjoy small moments of happiness i dont long for big ones and i enjoy small things like eating the left piece of cake, or cooking some noodle, playing with my niece, or watching my Favorite songs. I no longer wait but i still move and act and i dont give up on action in life for there’s nothing to loose till the time you’re alive play with life.

He Broke his Laptop, To Break Free

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Yes ! this is what my Fiance did to his laptop quite literally, he broke the laptop into pieces in a fit of    anger and frustration because we had some dispute and it was carried out in a chat session and i came to know of the destruction only when he messaged me on my phone about what had happened. 

I was very unhappy and unstable, as i was apprehensive that now our relation would get sour because he would not be able to connect with the world outside nor would he be able to carry out his job search or any other things we usually do on the net be it for work or for personal reasons.

Think of the situation if your social account( Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn, word press) had to be deleted for some reasons and when you know you can still have it despite of the moment that makes you do it, again it was your own choice, but think of it that, you did it , and you worry about your personal stuff that was gone and how much you wished to connect being a social person who loves to interact and connect and know about the world through virtual platform. But it disappears suddenly, when you were least prepared.

As i think about all these because you never know how deeply certain things are important for some people, you cannot know. And  thinking that id been the reason for all this, affected me more,and i thought that our relation would surely not work out in days to come, and things wont get back normal so soon, because right now there’s a terrible financial crunch that comes being unemployed and he needs something to freshen up i always think. 

Its hard to spend time doing things for someone who is out of job, the whole day you dont have any work and you look for things you could work and makes you feel content even if its job search doing it through the internet. I was afraid what would happen next. he is coping with this situation so well and he had this just one thing where he could share his thoughts through his blog http://arnabsinha.com/, but now he cannot even do that. 

I was running with all these thoughts and the phone rang it was him, and to my utmost surprise i heard him all the more relaxed, cool and stress free more than ever he was since the last years. he called me up to say that he was actually feeling nice, So “FREE” and so happy to get rid of that laptop . He said he got all the more time to read books ( Hard Copy), go out for jogging, spend time with his friend, call up the other people on phone, write down his diary, come out with novel ideas for business, evolve strategy’s for getting jobs, and what not, he talked endless about what all he could do in absence of his laptop.

Again i thought this unbelievable, because if i had broken my laptop i would have been crying for months and months till i got a new one but still i would have been unhappy for all the personal data pics and other things i would have lost in because of destruction.  

I still cannot digest the fact that how can anyone live without his laptop and having lost all the great stuff begins to feel richly, being out of touch with people and information for so long time and moreover he moves care free as if nothing had happened and he had lost almost nothing. the laptop was so insignificant, in a situation where he knows he cannot have it till the times he has a job and that too after his salary only he can buy a new one.

And i know he doesn’t pretend or show things, he is very straight forward and hides nothing about his feelings and emotions and always speaks the truth from the bottom of his heart. he is such a guy who never had a girlfriend, not even spoke to a woman in his 30 years of life, and as i say this and i can give it to you in writing also . For in the world today i cannot believe someone not having the girl or boy connection in any point of life. 

I believe that he has gone a level up in his search for spirituality after destroying the connection with the virtual world and the day is not far when he will break his phone too and become a complete sadhu who can live peacefully without these essentials that we think as another necessities after food, home and clothes.

Sometimes i  think that if i never had any of those gadgets in my life, i could be more free and will have more, much more, time  to cook, play with my niece  read more books, spend more time with my grandmother, do more chores, take up study courses, exercise everyday, write my diary,forget to care about my looks, live a stress free life, not care about my ex profile, get rid of seeing my glamorous friends everyday with their new pics, no news about friends getting married, seeing their pics of exotic honeymoon destinations, all the more i could do i think but, then this ‘but’ comes in between, and i think about all the changes that has been brought about by these gadgets in my life that cant be ignored.

It takes a lot of courage today to get outside the virtual world to afford a carefree life and being consistent with your consciousness, that should not interfere with thoughts that attracts you towards them. And am proud and happy that my love was able to break this and get out soon to enrich his life with spiritual encounters. 

 

Live up to Life

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A beautiful picture i clicked in Rishikesh of the holy river Ganga

 The world is full of miseries and more miseries,am not starting on a pessimistic note rather explaining the hard reality of life that we would rarely love to believe in because, if we  accept the reality we would cease to act any further .

 To accept the change of circumstances in life is to accept yourself and the courage you show to adjust and make changes within, rather than the outer circles of your life.

This Acceptance does not mean you lack, the power to change or that you succumb to situations. its only when there are events that happen in life like, death, loss of love, breakup, calamities man made or natural, or even when we are not able to change a specific person and certain relations or events which go out of hands and we have nothing else to change about it or do, then comes the acceptance, the unnatural part of our natural self which we are not aware about.

It takes a lot, really a lot of courage to get over a certain event or crises in our life and get back to normal self. it may take days, months or even some years or a lifetime to get out of the depths of such painful events.

 here’s how we can do it or deal with it in in thoughts and thinking …

 Things do happen as they always do, what has to happen will surely happen no matter how good or bad or great you’ve been in your life. 

When you sit in a coffee shop, you sit there and look around you everything is moving , everything is going around and coming around and you are there, sitting holding your cup, life is still moving even if you are not there in the crowd and you stop to happen for a moment. its stillness in you , your actions but the world still moves and its the rule of the nature that nothing stops.

And this never ending , never stopping of nature teaches us to always keep moving no matter what happens , no matter what comes , if you are living , you breathe you live your life and this is what you are meant to do, to keep on moving, neither you have the power to stop yourself nor you have the power to stop the movement around you. the ones who live , live it all good. the best part is you have the choice to make things move again if you live .

But then moving on is one thing and a question would happen to you always is that why it had to be with you ?

Why  ME ? 

Why Not HIM, Why Not HER ?

 She is an Evil and He is a Sinner

Am a Saint and a Forgiver

And here you first need to think that its okay “ITS ME” now , what next, god picked me for this, maybe am the chosen one ..

I say this because bad things or rather struggles happen to those who are near to god, because pain makes you more closer to god and one remembers him in each and every moment of that pain or misery. Be it any survivor or any person our from a deep trouble always cherishes life more and lives it even more, remembering every moment as gift from god. Good things happen to everyone but struggle and pain comes to some, not everyone is so courageous and great to deal with them. 

Even LORD SHIVA , had to spent so many years in pain, disenchantment and samadhi when devi sati left his world, even the lords have moments of pain and turmoils. But then Lord SHIVA too accepted it all and also accepted devi parvati ( devi sati’s reincarnation)

 So its not just you and me or why only me , its everyone even the gods who were fortunate enough to have their share, because of their struggle and suffering we look up to them for removing our struggles. If the gods hadn’t had any suffering and we alone had it as humans, then would we be able to think about them, to be feeling the same way we feel or struggle with such misfortunes,no i hope not.

 Another very important way to deal with such life situations is to accept the loss and painful event, the realization that yes am unhappy and so be it , but yes i can be happy too,  moreover if am not able to help myself then how will i help the people around me to cope up with the same.

 A strong person can pull a weak person, but a weak person can never pull a weak person.

 So going by the above lines one should always be acceptably up in emotions so that he / she can pull the other person out of that troublesome situation or event. If today you are in control of your situation and you have accepted the reality that things cannot be changed and it will be like this all throughout then its best to accept and make amends in your thoughts at least the very same time, the moment you accept it in your thoughts things will start functioning your brain shall be more active enough to think out ways to overcome it because now you have complete hold of the situation and you are through with its process and objectives.

 Prolonging the pain and suffering would lead no where. you should explore, this that the bad events had to happen and you can never be in same set of emotions all your life and that you have to be happy some day, then why not that day be today even if things are not good and you cannot change it, but think about other factors like you have no diseases, no blindness, no lameness, every body part is intact by the grace of god, and u have your two or three meals for a day and that you don’t need to beg for that. But think about the people who actually have all this and the fact that its with them forever but still they live strong, and from this you are away living nicely. so the present is much more beautiful when compared to a whole life of pain, such comparisons help a lot to rediscover the real life happiness and to do away with pain.

 Always view every second of your life as worth living , don’t ruin it , life is much more than problems and losses, Be it if you live individually or with others your life is your own life, there’s nothing to lose just live for self and not for people or objects as i have discussed in my earlier post, as i believe that you come without anyone or anything and you go only with your KARMA. ” the grave has no boxes, neither the shroud has any pockets so what you wish to take away with you doesn’t come into existence at all. its all Namesake and rests in this physical world.

 You came alone, you go alone out of this world but what remains with you always is your  KARMA. Its Better to start working on karma to make your life more worth living and not to feel the things that stop your actions and take you away from your duties, as its easy to moan all your life over losses than to begin again from the scratch and therefore to sit back and remain in pain and suffering is almost an excuse.

life never stops ,life never ceases to happen

  Sun never ceases to give light, water never ceases to move, wind never ceases to flow and god never ceases to listen to your prayers, and till the time you live your karma always grow.

Motivation is lesser than NEED !

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Another article i read today is about “Motivation alone can make you successful ”

I dont Believe this ..

I believe that Motivation has got a lot to do about success but this alone cannot define everything i have achieved in life . I tell you why i say this because its a Universal truth that we are talking about here and how can i deny it not being true .

Very often i have arguments with my fiance , who every now and then complains that he cannot work anymore on his new venture because he has lost all motivation and drive to proceed just because a silly problem snapped off all his logic and focus .

To this, my take has always been that you need to shift your thoughts from getting driven by this word “Motivation”. this word now makes me feel uncomfortable it petrifies me that in absence of this everything will crumble . So much for the word, that it becomes just  a complete perspective of the whole situation that can no longer happen and everything stagnates . the more he says it the more i get annoyed listening to it.

Why is motivation so much important for a person to hit success ? I  see success originating from need and sheer hard work , where work alone is the major concern that you have to perform because you have to do it, out of need. I consider Motivation is muse, a more pleasurable and rich feel word that can be applied for those who have” Choice”  in their hand, the gift of looking for some other task or work by skipping the ones in which they no longer feel interested in.

I think one is able and should be able to Succeed in absence of motivation, because only the Need can help you to work even when you feel pathetic working in some situations under rude bosses or with bad colleagues, you work alone to make ends meet where you have to feed your family, support someone or yourself, in such situations motivation doesn’t really help , because it makes you depressed on finding surroundings as nonadjustable and you cannot quit having no choice.

In such circumstances when you have to work for need you tend to work alone and make things simpler and convenient in the due course of time, you adjust and get used to the situation and keep consistent with your tasks thereby bringing permanence and resilience for the work and work environment .

Having had consistency and resilience you tend to develop more fine skills and smart work abilities  that let you cope up in stress and  take pressures and still focus on the major tasks that define the path for your success and accomplishment.

Honing such necessary skills and not giving up attitude and in absence of motivation you take up challenges and become a non quitter thus leading ahead with the quality not many have which makes you unique and an achiever in every stream where there’s no option other than to succeed and win it over.