anger and frustration | ThoughtSummary

Yes ! this is what my Fiance did to his laptop quite literally, he broke the laptop into pieces in a fit of anger and frustration because we had some dispute and it was carried out in a chat session and i came to know of the destruction only when he messaged me on my phone about what had happened.

I was very unhappy and unstable, as i was apprehensive that now our relation would get sour because he would not be able to connect with the world outside nor would he be able to carry out his job search or any other things we usually do on the net be it for work or for personal reasons.

Think of the situation if your social account( Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn, word press) had to be deleted for some reasons and when you know you can still have it despite of the moment that makes you do it, again it was your own choice, but think of it that, you did it , and you worry about your personal stuff that was gone and how much you wished to connect being a social person who loves to interact and connect and know about the world through virtual platform. But it disappears suddenly, when you were least prepared.

As i think about all these because you never know how deeply certain things are important for some people, you cannot know. And thinking that id been the reason for all this, affected me more,and i thought that our relation would surely not work out in days to come, and things wont get back normal so soon, because right now there’s a terrible financial crunch that comes being unemployed and he needs something to freshen up i always think.

Its hard to spend time doing things for someone who is out of job, the whole day you dont have any work and you look for things you could work and makes you feel content even if its job search doing it through the internet. I was afraid what would happen next. he is coping with this situation so well and he had this just one thing where he could share his thoughts through his blog http://arnabsinha.com/, but now he cannot even do that.

I was running with all these thoughts and the phone rang it was him, and to my utmost surprise i heard him all the more relaxed, cool and stress free more than ever he was since the last years. he called me up to say that he was actually feeling nice, So “FREE” and so happy to get rid of that laptop . He said he got all the more time to read books ( Hard Copy), go out for jogging, spend time with his friend, call up the other people on phone, write down his diary, come out with novel ideas for business, evolve strategy’s for getting jobs, and what not, he talked endless about what all he could do in absence of his laptop.

Again i thought this unbelievable, because if i had broken my laptop i would have been crying for months and months till i got a new one but still i would have been unhappy for all the personal data pics and other things i would have lost in because of destruction.

I still cannot digest the fact that how can anyone live without his laptop and having lost all the great stuff begins to feel richly, being out of touch with people and information for so long time and moreover he moves care free as if nothing had happened and he had lost almost nothing. the laptop was so insignificant, in a situation where he knows he cannot have it till the times he has a job and that too after his salary only he can buy a new one.

And i know he doesn’t pretend or show things, he is very straight forward and hides nothing about his feelings and emotions and always speaks the truth from the bottom of his heart. he is such a guy who never had a girlfriend, not even spoke to a woman in his 30 years of life, and as i say this and i can give it to you in writing also . For in the world today i cannot believe someone not having the girl or boy connection in any point of life.

I believe that he has gone a level up in his search for spirituality after destroying the connection with the virtual world and the day is not far when he will break his phone too and become a complete sadhu who can live peacefully without these essentials that we think as another necessities after food, home and clothes.

Sometimes i think that if i never had any of those gadgets in my life, i could be more free and will have more, much more, time to cook, play with my niece read more books, spend more time with my grandmother, do more chores, take up study courses, exercise everyday, write my diary,forget to care about my looks, live a stress free life, not care about my ex profile, get rid of seeing my glamorous friends everyday with their new pics, no news about friends getting married, seeing their pics of exotic honeymoon destinations, all the more i could do i think but, then this ‘but’ comes in between, and i think about all the changes that has been brought about by these gadgets in my life that cant be ignored.

It takes a lot of courage today to get outside the virtual world to afford a carefree life and being consistent with your consciousness, that should not interfere with thoughts that attracts you towards them. And am proud and happy that my love was able to break this and get out soon to enrich his life with spiritual encounters.

‘NO’ is the most famous and luxurious word in the vocabulary of human’s who can easily exercise it as and when required or desired.
The word ‘No’ carries lot of perks and prosperity with it, that help the person who addresses this word, does so to avoid or devoid someone of his /her interests and rest the case for themselves.

Saying ‘No’ often brings disgrace and disrespect for the people who do not back down for anyone looking for approvals against their own interests. And its often mistaken as the person may be considered rude or manner less or devoid of emotions, and those at the receiving end might feel the heat of being ignored or turned down and may accumulate unhealthy feelings in their hearts.

The person holding the ‘No’ position remains the same though, with peace and guilt unanimously, but the person who hears a ‘No’ bears the brunt of disapproval and apathy for life and may generalize his/her feeling if they get to hear it repetitively even from their friends and family.
Hearing a ‘No’ and turning down opinions affects the mental and emotional sanity of a person and he/she may get disheartened soon .

In the above situation one thing is for certain that ‘No’ and actually the person saying it is are not bound to change since no has flavour of its own and since No is so arrogant and professional in nature we continuously fail in the process of bringing change to it.
On a very rational note when things are clear and unchangeable then its our immediate responsibility for using ‘ and misusing ‘No’ quite certainly.
‘No’ can accommodate various kinds of tones with it, a polite no, a simple no, a rude no, or an angry no but we look as No is a No is a No.

However, this ‘No’ must be misused judiciously since it has s bundle of opportunities with it and should be seen as thd harbinger of good things that need to be observed, life comes with lot of disappintments and disapprovals and it is true that it never remains the same and is bound to change .
Here are plenty of people across the globe who have suffered a lot of disapprovals in their life and in almost every sphere be it professional or personal and they still had the potential to change and turn things around them to create a space for them to be approved and respected for their views and ideology.

To look at ‘No’ in a positive light we can attribute it to the of opportunities that awaits one, where so many ideas, proposals, needs and decisions are disapproved but one should explore the facets of exercising these in his/her own fashion to get them implemented. Its again not easy as it seems but not impossible as it may look to be, rather than sitting all life with disappointment and disgust one can discover novel opportunities for his/her future to undergo changes and prove themselves.

The art to change this no into an opportunity zone comes only through a deep reflection of your views that one may think are important enough and need to be recognized by the others. Its not that disapproval from one or many, becomes an end in itself. If a person wants to revolutionize with time, then everything is subject to change and even the faces we meet change as we begin to move beyond ‘No’.

Its never the end, where disapproval brings discomfort it also triggers observation and challenge us to change and spark revolution within ourself.